nobody can judge you how do they know everything that goes on in a childs mind, children do pick up on fears of our own and things we dont like if we say them often enough our children wont like those things either, i tried my best, you try your best others try there best, the person who told you you were not doing a great job hasnt walked in your shoes

try to reasure your self first then discuss your childs fears with your childs father and then your child,

i have reacently helped a five year old sleep in her own bed after a boy in her class threatened to kill all his class mates,
what a thing for a five year old go through, i can understand why the boy felt this way as his father died sudenely at 48, and the boy was in school a few days later amongst his clas mates when this statement came out

but the school didnt do anything they said how would your child feel, the grandmother of the young five year old i helped was talking to me about this when the girls mother came in she reacently was having work issues and a bout of depression wasnt in the right place to overcome her daughters fears of sleeping in her own bed, but with a bit of encourgment a sticker chart and some rewards the girl has been sleeping in her bed for nearly a mth now,

so its no always down to our own parenting skills why children suffer these anxieties

remember look after you first that way you are in a better postion to look after your family
and ignore the person who has so over stepped the mark in telling you that you are not doing it right

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