I agree with the idea that your T may think that you are in a different place in therapy than what you really feel. And unfortunately, your T won't know how you feel about it unless you tell her.

I really am surprised that she tried to make light of the situation. But then again, I can't tell whether or not she did/said what she did because she felt that you would be ok with it.

I hope you are able to work it out with your T and get back to a safe place.....