[that we take on the persona of the abuser .To make this simpler we take on others opinions of us and how that just doesn't sit quite right for them. ]

I agree that this dichotomy between what others project onto me [their own character flaws] and my true identity [who is that???] has fed my eating disorder. How sweet it is -- when I have detachment and see THEIR sickness and don't make it mine. I guess it is because I have a hard time believing there are so many sick spirits out there, all looking for a scapegoat.