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Originally Posted by tinaseajed
[that we take on the persona of the abuser .To make this simpler we take on others opinions of us and how that just doesn't sit quite right for them. ]
I agree that this dichotomy between what others project onto me [their own character flaws] and my true identity [who is that???] has fed my eating disorder. How sweet it is -- when I have detachment and see THEIR sickness and don't make it mine. I guess it is because I have a hard time believing there are so many sick spirits out there, all looking for a scapegoat.
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Exactly Tina
I have been brainwashed into beliving others negative opinions projections of me . So much so its like open season.,
And I have a difficult time saying the other one is Off the mark or just wrong in thier undertanding. especially when they proport knowledge and more power in thier understanding . Saying they " know me" . Like they know me better than I know myself. yet another way of beating a person down to lay the ground work for "their" handy work, alll so they can remai in control.
Thats gets easier as I am able to completly separste and not buy in to .
I struggle when I'm buying again . and letting them win.
Patricia