[pseudoshoes]

im a schizophrenic addict that has been clean from heroin for over two years but my paranoia has led me to alcohol recently. i screwed up my clean date... i was involved in narcotics anonymous but am feeling ashamed. i don't know what to do?!

[madisgram]

get back up, wipe yourself off, and go to a meeting. let people at the meeting know you are struggling. it's ok. don't beat yourself up, friend. you can regain the life you had.

[MovingForward123]

Congratulations for being heroin-free for 2 years! See it is possible. Don't bang yourself over the head over drinking. You have not gone back to heroin! You should be extremely proud. Go to a meeting pronto.

I just started dating a wonderful man who confessed to me in the second week that he was a recovering "functioning" heroin addict. I was crushed to say the least. The most I've done in my life was coke and no more since my Army days. Now it's been almost three months and he says he needs to take a break from 'us'. He's legally separated and his three kids are giving him a hard time about me. He says I'm wonderful, the best, and that he's missing me and it's going to be tough, but his sponsor says he should not be in a relationship while he's trying to get his act together. Is this true? He said it once before but he called me and told me he loved me and he didn't want to stop seeing me. Well this time if he weakens, I will refuse to see him. I'm not doing him or myself any good. I've been nothing but giving and kind to this man and I've always encouraged him to see his kids (even went home because he said he was missing a game of his daughter's) so I said, go! (yes, I'm a giver) and he made me feel like I was the only girl in the world (great song btw).

I feel like I need to protect him, no one in my family knows of his addiction. If I were to tell them then it would be another unnecessary hurdle that he would have to climb over. Anyway, I'm treating this like it's over, because I've been hurt by him twice already. Not sure if he's telling me the truth or not, but I believe he is, but I'm still going to give it a month out of respect for him ~ not sure how long it will take for him to get his stuff together, certainly more than a month... and then I hope I can start back in the dating pool.

I've read about heroin addiction, but I did also read that tobacco addiction is hard, too. I quit smoking in Feb after 25 plus years of smoking and I quit cold turkey, and stayed quit two weeks into it when my husband of 5 months left me after 13 years of living together.

Now I ask any man out there to please do not go onto a dating site UNTIL you are able to become emotionally involved with another. You'll save women a lot of heartache.

[DePressMe]

pseudoshoes, I'm glad you are reaching out for help. That's a good step in the right direction. I don't do AA or NA but if that has helped you before than go to a meeting! My mental health issues are intertwined with my feelings and thoughts about my addiction. I have to pay close attention to both of them because if I drop the ball on one of them then the other is soon to follow.

[madisgram]

Originally Posted by MovingForward123

who confessed to me in the second week that he was a recovering "functioning" heroin addict. I was crushed to say the least. ummm why were you crushed when you found this out? but his sponsor says he should not be in a relationship while he's trying to get his act together. Is this true? yes it's usually recommended in early sobriety so the person can focus on their previous addiction behaviors/damage and areas of their life they need to change. it has no reflection on you. it's just helpful to the person not to be diverted from getting better. also sometimes a relationship will falter and the recovering person is not able to cope as well. this can lead to a relapse of past behaviors-using. i admire him for taking directiom from his sponsor, his new life may depend on it. He said it once before but he called me and told me he loved me and he didn't want to stop seeing me. Well this time if he weakens, I will refuse to see him. I'm not doing him or myself any good. I've been nothing but giving and kind to this man and I've always encouraged him to see his kids (even went home because he said he was missing a game of his daughter's) so I said, go! (yes, I'm a giver) and he made me feel like I was the only girl in the world (great song btw).well if your intentions are to help him follow direction from his sponsor then i admire what you are willing to do so he can get better.

I feel like I need to protect him, no one in my family knows of his addiction. If I were to tell them then it would be another unnecessary hurdle that he would have to climb over. Anyway, I'm treating this like it's over, because I've been hurt by him twice already. how so? Not sure if he's telling me the truth or not, but I believe he is, but I'm still going to give it a month out of respect for him ~ not sure how long it will take for him to get his stuff together, certainly more than a month... and then I hope I can start back in the dating pool.

Now I ask any man out there to please do not go onto a dating site UNTIL you are able to become emotionally involved with another. You'll save women a lot of heartache.

maybe he was unaware of this way of our doing things-waiting a year before getting into a relationship after getting clean.
sorry tho you have this disappointment too. when we get clean and sober we have a lot of baggage we need to "clean up."

[pseudoshoes]

thanks. i have been going to meetings and have been clean for 14 days now.

[madisgram]

oh great pseudo!!!!! each day away from a drug strengthens your resolve plus meetings. keep us posted, k? i'm wishing the best for you.