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Oct 19, 2011, 12:34 PM
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I usually post in the depression forum and have gained alot from it. I would like everyone's input on this situation regarding a family member.
This relative was raised in an alcoholic/abusive household and drank regularly in her 20s through 40s. She then through family pressure basically stopped the regular drinking. From that point on she drinks in certain social situations that occur maybe 3 to 5 times a year. When she does, it is not pretty. It doesn't take a substantial amount and she becomes loud, combative and confrontational. It doesn't matter who she is in front of and she doesn't seem to be aware of how altered her behavior is. She has been confronted about embarrassing behavior and doesn't defend it-- she just says nothing. At times she doesn't remember what went on. It's obvious to all that she is drunk, incapable or driving or walking normally--but not pass out drunk. It's clear that she is enjoying the drinking. If she had to drive home herself, it would be limited to an amount that is reasonable. She can control the extent of it if need be. I think the term alcoholic/addict is overused and for some an unnecessary label. How do u see this behavior. Please give any feedback you can.
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Oct 19, 2011, 04:07 PM
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hard to say, ste. she of course can be the only one to decide but your concern is worth noting. the fact that she doesn't get drunk but on few occasions thruout the year gives me pause. could she be drinking at home too with no one the wiser? they do tell us-alcoholics-that when we can't predict the outcome of our drinking we may have a problem.
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Oct 19, 2011, 04:19 PM
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I would say its actually a good sign she cannot control her drink, which is "on occasion". This implies her tolerance is low. Which means the alc. is foreign to her system, and the reaction is obvious. A good thing. Why? because now she will think twice before drinking in the future, and she (her system) is still recognizing it as unwanted, not conducive to balance. Not dependency yet.
thats my humble opinion.  BB
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