Teens addictions

Hello.

As I said in the 'introduce yourself' forum, I am the mother of Kevin and Scott, my two boys who actually are 14 and 16 years old. They are a source of many problems, but I manage to clean up the most of them. However, since I have found Scott has an addiction problem I really started to loose my sleep because I don't know how to handle it. I think addictions are even worse for teenagers because they don't have enough lucidity to realize they endanger their whole lifes. I spoke to him, confiscated his crack pipe several times, but I keep find him wasted in a bunch nearby the public garden or I see him lying on her house couch with red eyes.

Has anyone else ever experiences that kind of problem with teens ? How did you handle it ?

Thanks for listening

hi kelina, you'll find you receive many replies not just mine. first off none of us can get another person clean and sober i'm sorry to say. but you can go to a 12 step program for you...al-anon. you will find others who are dealing with a loved one who is addicted. it's a great support system and costs you nothing. if you're interested...don't know where you live but..here's the link for meetings http://www.al-anon.org/meetings/meeting.html
i'm so sorry your sons and you have to thru this but hopefully they will want to get help. and you need help too. the other thing..it would do no harm if you sit down with them and tell them how their using affects you, and how frightened and alone you feel. perhaps that may be the seed planted that will yield them to think about what they're doing.
if you wish you can pm me anytime. i don't have all the answers but happy to help if i can. -madi

hey kelina, i wish i could say something to actually help, but i cant just dont say anything, i'd like to show you some support at least.
maybe.. when you confiscated it, did you talk to him? have you talked to him about why is he doing that and how that makes you feel, how you are worried and how dangerous that is? i don't know how your relationship with him is, neither how he is usually, i'm 20 and i have had chances to use these things but i knew there could be no way out, specially because i've been alone (even living with my parents i was alone) and i always wondered why do people start doing those things in the first place... sometimes it's "for a try" and they can't get out, or they dont even know what they are doing you know?
i'd say to try to talk to your son and let him understand you, try your hardest to understand him too, be there for each other and if you can, get some help as madisgram said, both of you can get support and i really hope you two can talk and he accepts help. if his friends are into it with him, he needs to understand for himself and think for himself that its not good.