Relationships

Days of Healing, Days of Joy................Oct. 11th

"The easiest person to deceive is one's own self." .Edward Bulwer-Lytton

How much can we afford to lose? Of all the investments we might make, the most important and riskiest by far are in our personal relationships. Important because such investments put so many of our feelings, sense of self-worth, and serenity on the line. These invenstments are risky because the success of the relationship is so dependent on the other person's willingness and ability to play fair.

No matter how committed we are to making the relationship work, if our partners don't have or won't do what it takes, we are out of luck. A relationship simply cannot be healthier than both of the parties involved.

It isn't cold or calculating to consider well the implications and ramifications of an important investment. It is fulfilling a primary responsibility to ourselves, to our partners, and to our Higher Power.
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Today, I will examine my delusions about myself and the people I love: What's really going on here?

thru therapy and AA i realized i needed to set healthy boundaries with certain family and friends. quite honestly my AA friends give and receive my greatest joy. guess we all have dysfunctional family's, just me, but some members of my family are toxic to my wellbeing. i've learned the solution is to pray for them-a new concept at first-but know today i am worthy of being treated fairly and with kindness. i can without guillt distance myself from them. before sobriety i was a human doormat. so today i know have genuine worth and value. i have rid myself of being the "victim" which gave me resentments- another thing i needed to change about myself when i got sober. and AA showed me how!
as for my relationships with people and doing the above things has enabled me have such joy in my life. i love my friends and they love me. we respect each other. another reason i am grateful for being alcoholic...i never would have thought i needed to improve myself. i never would've learned all the wonderful and constructive things in all corners of my life. forgiving is another gift when i have been truly wronged as long as the relationship is equal and loving. none of us is perfect. that is another thing i have learned. expecting someone else to be perfect can really mess up a good relationship. we all are human. we all make mistakes. making amends if it's my fault keeps things in balance. oh yeah, i got rid of my abusive husband newly sober. it saved my life. it's hard to forgive him but i do pray for him and that really helps me 20 years later.

Thank you so much for posting the daily readings. I do read them on a daily basis. I posted to this one earlier then deleted it. I do this alot.
My relationship with others is pretty hard, but things are getting better everyday.