[faithfamily]

My loved one returns from 45 day alcohol treatment in 10 days and I welcome ALL comments from those of you who have been in my shoes. Based on good, prior conversations, she is doing well. Diagnosed mild/moderate, group leader, has a good therapist. We have been in a relationship for several years and the alcohol has tormented relational progress. She has an 11yo son who is in the care of her sister during this time. Within the last 5 days, my messages (I only left 2) haven't been returned, and that concerns me. I know the days are long and the therapy can be exhausting. Phone time is restricted, they share community phones during the last two hours of the day, 8-10pm. However, I long to hear from her and become anxious and nervous when I don't get that return call. As if something is terribly wrong. I don't understand. She knows of my unwavering support and happiness for her recovery through prior calls, a personal visit, and cards in the mail. What experiences/advice do you know about these final days? What is wise for me to consider upon her return? What support did you practice in the early stage home? Thank you SO, SO much.

[Altered Moment]

I can only share from the recovering alcoholics perspective. They told me in treatment to join AA when I got out and that my recovery had to come first. When I was new in recovery I was very selfish about it. I went to tons of meetings and it is all I thought about. My wife felt very left out and jealous of all my new friends. She feared I would meet someone new. You can support her by supporting and encouraging whatever aftercare and treatment plan they come up with for her.

I would strongly encourage you to go to alanon and to not lose yourself in her process. You have to take care of yourself. Alanon you go to for yourself and your well being but it also allows you to participate in what she is going through. I would also suggest couples counseling or a couples group.

I have to warn you that the dynamics of the relationship may very likely change. In my experience it takes a lot of work by both parties for the relationship to grow in recovery.

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[browncat]

You seem incredibly caring and supportive! I have no advice to give, but I do agree with what Zinco has already mentioned regarding Alanon and couples counseling, and being supportive of whatever after care she needs to attend, like meetings. I hope everything goes well for you both

[OnlyFelipe]

You care so much for her and that was good. I know your worried of what will be the outcome. Its awkward first, but you see bringing back your old self is refreshing. Continue your support, love and affection to her and i tell you that's the best treatment she could ever have, that she is not alone on this battle. It gives more motivation knowing your still surrounded by people you love after the mistakes you have done.