Enabling

I made a friend when I was last ip. He was there to withdraw from alcohol.

Unfortunately his well crafted lies meant that the other day I helped him use. I tried to argue against it but he manipulated me into it. And I just didn't have a strong enough argument to stop him.

And I feel like it's my fault he managed to get that drink. I'm sure he would have got it somehow, but I should have been stronger.

Are you sure that this guy is the kind of friend you need in your life? Sadly users exploit everyone around the, it was his choice to drink and he took advantage of your good nature. This wasn't your fault. If you choose to keep this guy as a friend you will have to learn to walk away from requests like this, are you sure you have that inner strength? Also are you sure he won't drag you down? I don't want to judge I just want you to be safe.

Its not your fault, you was manipulated . he will probably manipulate you again. Are you sure he's a friend ? He could just be using people

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Yeah I have since decided to cut ties with him. I thought he was a friend, but well he twists everything and lies a hell of a lot. He was trying to turn me away from one of my best friends, saying she wasn't good for me and insulting her and that was just too much. I don't need the drama

Hi HalloweenSkye: Quite a few years ago now, in a partial hospital program I participated in, they said: "Don't 'should' on yourself!" So I now pass that little gem on to you. Please don't should on yourself. This man's addiction is not your fault or your responsibility. I'm glad you're cutting ties with him.

Please don't blame yourself for this. You didn't cause the addict to drink. I know sometimes they can make you feel that way.

Good for you, moving on is always hard but you did the best thing for yourself

You did the best thing for you moving on from him..

Walking away shows you are strong, because it can be so hard. So many emotions to deal with. I had to cut a friend out of my life, because she was affecting my mental health and well being to the extent, that if I had stayed friends with her, I know
I would of ended up in hospital. She was very manipulative and even though she had a good heart (she was not a user and thoughtful) unfortunately her other traits overshadowed her good ones by far. I think you did the right thing, sometimes making boundaries are tough, but self care is very important and walking away from toxic personalities or situations is always a good step in the right direction.