[tranquility]

A very good friend at work got a call today that her 48 year old sister has 2 hours to live and she needed to get to the hospital.

Her sister is an alcoholic. The parents kept enabling her (paying her rent, buying her new cars everytime she crashed hers), then 2-3 months ago they cut her off. She has been homeless since with a 15 year old daughter and 18 year old son.

She dried out in June and then again 3 weeks ago. When she was in the hospital three weeks ago they told her one more drink and she would be dead. She left and proceeded to drink a gallon of vodka every day. On Saturday night she passed out at a drug house and they called the rescue. Her liver and kidneys are shot.

My friend said if she pulled through she'd tell her she loves her then slap her for being stupid. Then she got the call. I talked to her for a long time. I told her everything she feels is normal. Her sister was very sick and when you drink that much you can't even think straight. So to get help she had to dry out first to be able to consciously think of help. She did dry out and she chose to go back out.

Her family is devasted, her mom says it's all her fault that she was a terrible mom. It's hard to see this but it reminds me of why I don't drink and that I need to go to meetings.

Tranq

[DePressMe]

Wow...makes me grateful for my recovery.

[Raynaadi]

That could be any one of us.....we see it in here too...countless people saying they have a problem with drinking and/or drugging and then we don't hear from them again. Its a scary scary thing....lets keep a hold on each other....

(((( Tranquility )))) Thank you for sharing this with us...my aunt died an alcoholic death as well, from sheer alcoholic stubbornness. She ended up living in a trailor with her boyfriend on the fairgrounds, refusing to see a doctor. She was about 80 pounds when she died. She didn't take care of her teeth and the alcohol rotted them away and she got an infection that went to her blood and caused absess' on all her vital organs.

Its sad to hear the stories of deaths, but we all need to be reminded that we'll end up there too, if we drink again.

(((( Sober buddies and those struggling ))))

[DePressMe]

My biological father is drinking like that--he drinks as much as he can, all day, every day. Its sad, but there is nothing I can do for him.

He did quit drinking for about 5 years. It really changed him, but when he relapsed, he seemed to drink even more.

For my own sanity, I had to walk away from it all--I could not stay in the mess and try to help him get sober. I had to take care of myself and my own sobriety. I can only hope that some day he will see the light and want to quit drinking before it is too late.

[Raynaadi]

(((( DePressMe )))))

I hope your dad sees the light in time as well.

[DePressMe]

Thanks Raynaadi

I am very grateful for my sobriety.

[tranquility]

Hi,

I haven't been here much the last few days. I have been working way too many hours and am bushed.

I wanted to post today, because my friend went to her sisters funeral today. Her father panicked last week when they were about to pronounce her sister dead and he was there alone so he had her put on life support.

Her liver was so bad and inflamed that it had enveloped both her kidneys. I felt so bad because I don't think she would have wanted to be kept alive.

Her kidneys and liver were so bad that they didn't have to make the decision to remove her from life support, she died while on it Saturday.

Unfortunately I couldn't go to the funeral today but I did make my AA meeting and spoke about it. Before I did I looked at the guy behind me who had just shared that he had 15 years of sobriety and this was his third day back after being out for 3 years. I told him I was so happy to see him come back. After talking about my friend I could see he was effected. He should have been - he's lucky he made it back in - she didn't.

Please stay sober and safe today.

Tranquility

[DePressMe]

Thanks for sharing Tranquility. There is never a good side to a tragedy as horrible as this, but I am glad you are using this experience in a positive manner.

I hope work slows down for you soon.