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Sep 28, 2008, 08:07 AM
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My daughter is in her approx 5th year of being diagnosed BP. Probably once every year, the circle goes.........coming out of trouble with alcohol related trouble/problems, finishing AA, treatment, jail time, etc. getting good on meds, going to AA, finding a job, getting finances straight, etc. to starting to drink again. She's at the starting to drink again (it's been 1 year since she drove down the highway, drunk, and getting stopped by the cops).
My question is: Our relationship is very strained, I basically don't want anything to do with her drinking, when I have in the past, she is very mean to me and hating me. Then I help when she has got in trouble, and the cylce starts again. I'm very reluctant to help anymore, I don't know what to do.....she has started to call at 4:00 in the morning, drunk, I don't answer, if I would have the last time, she needed a ride home from a different town, to another town (to get her keys), then back to her apartment. If I would have answered, I don't know if I would have picked her up. I just don't know what I should do for her or not? |
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Sep 28, 2008, 02:08 PM
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Skettner,
That sounds like a really difficult position for you to be in. It's got to be hard watching someone you love self destruct. The thing is an alcoholic is not going to stop drinking until they are ready to stop. It cost me a really good job, before I was ready to stop and even then it was hard. You have to be committed to wanting a sober life. Even though it may be hard on you, you may have to let her live with the consequences of her decisions and get into more trouble before she's ready to stop. You can encourage her and support her in healthy choices like going back to AA, but in my opinion you should not do anything that enables her drinking. You said in your post that she finishes AA, well the thing is you're never really finished with AA, if you really believe in and get into working the program. Alcoholism is a disease that you have for life, which means you have to continue abstance from alcohol for life - AA helps you do that, but it's not something you move in and out of. As for yourself, have you considered attending an Al-Anon meeting. I've heard really good things about Al-Anon in terms of helping people to learn to live with the alcoholic in their lives. Wishing you and your daughter the best. --splitimage
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