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Jan 10, 2009, 09:02 PM
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I just got a phone call tonight from one of the women in my Sat. mornining group. One of the regulars, Janet, who always came out for lunch with us after the meeting went in for hip replacement surgery and died on the operating table.
She was really looking forward to having the operation, and starting therapy, and having increased mobility - she wasn't even that old, only about 60. She'd been sober 30+ years. I mean they do hip replacements all the time, heck my 85 year old step mother had one and she was up and about in 4 days - I just don't think of it as high risk surgery, so this is a real shock. Janet was one of the most positive people I know, always upbeat and happy. I'm still a little leary around people in AA who talk about God all the time, but Janet had the most intense, personal, and loving relationship with her higher power, that you couldn't help but be drawn in and want the same thing - she was so sincere about it, that it never felt like preaching. It's so not going to be the same going out to lunch without her. I'm really going to miss her. --splitimage
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Jan 10, 2009, 09:08 PM
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((Split))) we each are a gift in our own way, Janet has left a gift for us with her loving spirit and will to renew... hip surgery.... i feel awful too
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Jan 10, 2009, 09:39 PM
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 i'm so sorry to hear about that, splitimage. |
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Jan 11, 2009, 12:08 AM
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((SI)) i'm so sorry to hear about your friend janet. our friends in aa have such a special meaning in our lives. your statement about her spirituality reinforced the saying that "we live by example."
 she must have been a wonderful person who touched so many lives..those struggling to stay sober and those she had known over the years.i am truly sorry for your loss. 
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Jan 11, 2009, 01:55 AM
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(((((((((((Splitimage)))))))))))))))
I'm sorry. That is undeniably a rough situation... and definitely a shock. Will there be a funeral, or a memorial or something that you can go to? Something through AA as a rememberance of her? Take care of yourself, okay? I'm here if you need to talk at all.
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Jan 11, 2009, 08:46 AM
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(((((((((((Splitimage)))))))))))))))
I am so sorry split...the rooms of AA have more than their share of tragedy.... After all is said and done,,life is so damn fragile...these sad events teach us gratitude for each and every moment... Like others have shared...please know we are here.... Lenny
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Jan 11, 2009, 10:46 AM
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((splitimage))
I'm so very sorry... She gave much to those around her What a wonderful example to others Hold fast to the gifts she left behind... Cap
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Jan 13, 2009, 06:02 PM
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SplitImage,
Gosh, I hate to hear that. I know it has just knocked the stuffing out of you and others especially your women's group. Maybe there can be something special at this Saturday's meeting? This sounds really stupid but it's so true...the older you get, the more people you know will die...that's how it is. So sorry for the loss, notz |
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Jan 14, 2009, 09:50 AM
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Thanks everyone. The funeral is this morning - I'll be leaving in about 1/2 an hour. One thing I did find amusing, in typical Janet fashion, she left a $1000 in her will to throw a really big party. That is so typically her.
I've been on the phone a lot with lots of different people, talking about it, and I'm starting to feel ok. I mean I still miss her lots and next Sat's meeting is going to be hard, but it doesn't feel quite as devastating. --splitimage
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Jan 15, 2009, 12:08 AM
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((((((((Split)))))))))) Thinking of you.
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Jan 15, 2009, 09:41 AM
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((((((splitimage))))))))))))))))))
I am sorry i did not see this till now my prayers are with you so very hard... take care of you too you are a good person muffy |
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Jan 15, 2009, 08:46 PM
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(((((hugs))))
WOW that's a great idea.. leave money for a party. Yep. I like that. She sounds like she was a terrific person to know (just like you.)
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Jan 15, 2009, 09:18 PM
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Oh, Split...I am so sorry for your loss. I understand how difficult it is to loose somebody who is a part of your inner circle. I am sending you positive thoughts. Hang in there....
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Jan 16, 2009, 08:07 PM
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Oh Split I just found this....I'm so sorry hon. Janet sure sounds like a hell of a woman. As I was listening to your post my heart ached. All I could think was at least she died sober....at least she didn't die from this disease......when I heard the subject thats what I automatically assumed, that someone had died from drinking. What a blessing that you got to know this dear lady, and what a legacy she is leaving. All those lives and hearts she touched, and now ours too. Hugs Plitimage. Please feel free to pm anytime hon.
Rayna
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