New to ACA

Well, my T has me working on ACA stuff now. I never heard of it before, but boy does it fit! I am so glad PC has an ACA forum!

Hello, WePow. Another piece in the puzzle. Good luck.

WePow,
I left home over 30 years ago, and with this site I realize that I did not leave the ACA behaviours behind.
Phew..it will take time to honor the behaviors that kept me safe in the past, forgive my parents and practice behaviors that will not interfer with my life today.
all the best.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/23798

I did a reading of the article, the timing is useful, in GT last week, we were asked to say what our role was growing up, and what our current role is. I had a hard time defining my role in my family. This helped put words to memories.

I am glad the article was of some assistance.

Good luck with GT.

I've been studying ACA materials for over twenty years (including examining characteristics it manifested in me during therapy sessions) and there is one area I would like for you to consider.

After you feel well educated in the negative effects that your parents' alcoholism had upon you, seek out the GOOD characteristics and habits that you gained from growing up in that environment. It is an exercise well worth the time and effort. And it helps to sooth the sting of the memories and the wounds left behind. It did for me.

Vickie, thanks for sharing your insight and wisdom. It is a lot of work at this stage in the depression to find much positive in myself or anyone.
I expect when some energy returns that I will continue with my education on ACA.
It was an incredible feeling of release and awe to find out I was not the only one that feels so disconected with the 'normal'.

My parents in spite of their drama taught us to respect all humanity, animals, property and to have a passion for learning.
One of the first coping skills that I have taken to an extreme is to overwork. So the name of Gently1 was born. It is not a race but a journey.

Vickie and all seekers of wellness at PC