[blazkiller123]

I'm a 16 year old individual that was diagnosed with A.D.H.D. disorder, which is similar to A.D.D. or attention deficit disorder, but similarly includes small behavioral problems. Mostly I've grown out of my behavioral issues other than a couple of hiccups along the road with school and my family. They're not entirely serious but they do cause some problems. But they can also be worked with and moved on from. I lived a nice 12 years until my father had become sober. My mother"being someone diagnosed with an auto immune disease" is mostly out of it, but I'd say about 2/4ths of a year she is capable of most menial things and can move and clean and do normal humanly things. I don't really know why, but maybe it was out of depression. She let my father start to see us every other weekend for the past few years. Then he got more and more time of being sober and eventually a job, he then got fired from multiple jobs"always with a reason that it wasn't his own fault" and eventually got unemployment and is now moved back into our house. I never had him live with me before because my mom kicked him out a long time ago, possibly in 1990 or something like that. And every day I feel like I'm just not here. I go to school, I do my school work, I get good grades, I'm prospering, planning on getting a job this summer, maybe eventually a car before I'm 18 years old. I try and do the best I can with my chores. I am a severely overweight individual and weigh almost 240 Lbs, and am about 100lbs overweight, since I'm about 6ft. 1 inches tall and built really bulky, my doctor said 240 would be a good weight balance for me. I get severely teased about my weight from my dad, I get thrashed by him about anything he can find to pick on, he's mean, narcasistic, an asshole, a dry alchoholic, and even fights with and abuses my mother. I hate him and wish him dead. I can't go to a counseling center because If my family was in a session with a therapist, and I expressed everything to the therapist that I've been holding in for so long, we'd do whatever the session included, get out to the parking lot getting ready to leave, and he would beat me up in the parking lot. He won't except therapy, he won't admit he's wrong even though on more then multiple occasions I've been right about things, and he even calls me horrific names when he can find the perfect time to do so. I feel scared, he's always threatening to hurt me or kill me, he says terrible things to my mother. He hates me and thinks I'm worthless because I don't do all of the following on the weekend:

clean my bathroom, clean my moms, detail the kitchen, vacuum the carpets/rugs, clean the furniture, vacuum the garage, take out the trash, pick up any trash in the house, remove everything from the cabinets and refridgerator and clean them, clean the pets, pickup the dogshit, change the cat litter box, make my bed, clean my bedsheets, do my own laundry, mow the lawn, trim the trees, sweep and hose down the yard. And I'm sure there's more that I can't think of.

Do you know how much that is, isn't it true that in a normal family, your supposed to share the houses work, not make one person a slave and make them do all of it?

That's about where I am at the moment.

What should I do,

Should I do my best to survive, keep quiet and concealed and hide, until I can get a job, turn 18, and find a roommate(s) to live with on craigslist and get out of this hell hole as soon as possible?

[Ardmore]

Originally Posted by blazkiller123

I'm a 16 year old individual that was diagnosed with A.D.H.D. disorder, which is similar to A.D.D. or attention deficit disorder, but similarly includes small behavioral problems. Mostly I've grown out of my behavioral issues other than a couple of hiccups along the road with school and my family. They're not entirely serious but they do cause some problems. But they can also be worked with and moved on from. I lived a nice 12 years until my father had become sober. My mother"being someone diagnosed with an auto immune disease" is mostly out of it, but I'd say about 2/4ths of a year she is capable of most menial things and can move and clean and do normal humanly things. I don't really know why, but maybe it was out of depression. She let my father start to see us every other weekend for the past few years. Then he got more and more time of being sober and eventually a job, he then got fired from multiple jobs"always with a reason that it wasn't his own fault" and eventually got unemployment and is now moved back into our house. I never had him live with me before because my mom kicked him out a long time ago, possibly in 1990 or something like that. And every day I feel like I'm just not here. I go to school, I do my school work, I get good grades, I'm prospering, planning on getting a job this summer, maybe eventually a car before I'm 18 years old. I try and do the best I can with my chores. I am a severely overweight individual and weigh almost 240 Lbs, and am about 100lbs overweight, since I'm about 6ft. 1 inches tall and built really bulky, my doctor said 240 would be a good weight balance for me. I get severely teased about my weight from my dad, I get thrashed by him about anything he can find to pick on, he's mean, narcasistic, an asshole, a dry alchoholic, and even fights with and abuses my mother. I hate him and wish him dead. I can't go to a counseling center because If my family was in a session with a therapist, and I expressed everything to the therapist that I've been holding in for so long, we'd do whatever the session included, get out to the parking lot getting ready to leave, and he would beat me up in the parking lot. He won't except therapy, he won't admit he's wrong even though on more then multiple occasions I've been right about things, and he even calls me horrific names when he can find the perfect time to do so. I feel scared, he's always threatening to hurt me or kill me, he says terrible things to my mother. He hates me and thinks I'm worthless because I don't do all of the following on the weekend:

clean my bathroom, clean my moms, detail the kitchen, vacuum the carpets/rugs, clean the furniture, vacuum the garage, take out the trash, pick up any trash in the house, remove everything from the cabinets and refridgerator and clean them, clean the pets, pickup the dogshit, change the cat litter box, make my bed, clean my bedsheets, do my own laundry, mow the lawn, trim the trees, sweep and hose down the yard. And I'm sure there's more that I can't think of.

Do you know how much that is, isn't it true that in a normal family, your supposed to share the houses work, not make one person a slave and make them do all of it?

That's about where I am at the moment.

What should I do,

Should I do my best to survive, keep quiet and concealed and hide, until I can get a job, turn 18, and find a roommate(s) to live with on craigslist and get out of this hell hole as soon as possible?

Your father sounds like a ****ing prick to me, if he is as much of a bastard as you say then something needs to be done, contact a domestic violence hotline, or child abuse hotline, tell a teacher or stand up to your father.

Inside, your father is just a little girl banging on the bathroom door, having fits.
I think it's best to stay with a friend if possible.

Best of luck

[AvidReader]

So, wait -- your mom is aware of how horrible things are with your dad? You said she is "capable of most menial things and can move and clean and do normal humanly things" "2/4ths of the year" -- I'm not sure if that is a typo, but I'm assuming you mean least half the time she is up and around. Can she be of any help?

I agree with ardmore. Two years until you turn 18 is too long for you to endure this sort of treatment, assuming your mother will not step in. I urge you to speak with a teacher or counselor at school or call a helpline.

Best of luck to you.

[blazkiller123]

Originally Posted by AvidReader

So, wait -- your mom is aware of how horrible things are with your dad? You said she is "capable of most menial things and can move and clean and do normal humanly things" "2/4ths of the year" -- I'm not sure if that is a typo, but I'm assuming you mean least half the time she is up and around. Can she be of any help?

I agree with ardmore. Two years until you turn 18 is too long for you to endure this sort of treatment, assuming your mother will not step in. I urge you to speak with a teacher or counselor at school or call a helpline.

Best of luck to you.

Think of it as, "Sloth Vs. Bear"

mom = sloth
prick = bear

[blazkiller123]

Whatever, to answer your question.

whenever im not in the room my mother backstabbs me to him in any way shape or form, and honestly, she's just about as mental as him, one moment she's happy, the next she's called me all sorts of bad words. but if you get both of the assholes together, she wouldn't do anything, in fact she'd probably be right behind him playing the role of a cheerleader.

[Leed]

Hi ~ You DEFINITELY need to get out of that house! Talk to the counselor at school and ask what can be done. The counselor can contact the authorities and they can come and GET you out of that house!!

Whenever there are allegations of child abuse, they make sure that the child is safe. And since you are old enough to know what abuse IS - I'm sure they would remove you from the house. Tell your counselor - and tell her that you are afraid for your safety and don't want to spend another NIGHT there!!

I wish you the very best ~ please try to let us know as soon as you can, what happened. We do care! Hugs, Lee

[IceCreamKid]

Tell a teacher at school you are being abused.

[lastyearisblank]

This is just terrible blazkiller. No parent should ever behave that way to their teen. I hope you can talk to somebody at school about what you're going through (a counselor as others have suggested is a great start). They may not act on anything against your wishes. But there are things they can do to protect you, and help you assert some of your rights. You deserve a more safe and respectful home environment.

My thoughts are with you!

[missbelle]

what about ala teen??....Your dad is sober but he is still an alcoholic with alcoholic behavior!!!!!!. Meetings would help you cope till you can leave. Confide in someone about what is really going around. I agree you should talk to the school counselor or a teacher your respect!!! Let us know how things are going!
Thinking of you!

[Yoda]

CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

http://www.childhelp.org/pages/help-for-kids

[whiteroses40]

Blazkiller....be strong and talk to you school counselor or call the child abuse hotline. My thoughts will be with you.