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Mar 17, 2011, 02:19 PM
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My parents seem to be supportive of my illness when they aren't drinking when they have had a few they are impossible to talk to they forget what you say to them and they get defensive is there someway i can learn to cope with these behaviors?
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Mar 17, 2011, 05:37 PM
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Hi soul searching,
I can relate to that too. My parents drive me crazy when they are drinking. I can barely stand to be around them. My heart goes out to you for having to deal with that. Have you considered getting to an Al Anon or Alateen meeting? There are others who know what you are going through.
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Mar 18, 2011, 04:09 PM
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Absolutely!! Get to an Al-Anon or Ala-teen meeting!! There, they will show you how to cope -- how to live with an alcoholic. They'll teach you how to NOT enable them. You'll learn all kinds of coping strategies, and come out alot stronger!!
I strongly recommend them. I've been to them myself and they helped me alot. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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Mar 18, 2011, 05:38 PM
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hi soul searching...count me in too. al-anon, alateen, ACOA are all tremendous support groups and free too.
google any one of them and put in your town and state. the meeting times will pop right up. and no need to feel shy, everyone there has walked thru that same door to get help. so glad you are seeking help.  YOU can get better even if your parents do not.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Mar 21, 2011, 10:25 AM
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Madisgram, that last line you wrote just popped out at me: the notion that a relative of an alcoholic can get better even if the alcoholic does not. I never really thought of it that way before. Thanks!
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Mar 22, 2011, 08:35 PM
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It is very difficult to talk to alcoholics while they are drinking. A few years ago, I was trying to talk to my father about our relationship while he was drinking and lets just say that it turned violent (on his part) in seconds. I have not attended of the support groups like Al-Anon or ACOA but it will be part of my recovery from the disease. Consider the groups advice. You need a set of skills that will help you deal with their disease. Wish you well.
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