[aribugg]

Okay, so I haven't been officially diagnosed with anorexia since I've never seen a professional but I am like sure I've got (or at the very least getting) anorexia. I want to get better, I really do, but it's just so hard, you know? Especially trying to get better alone. So I kind of want to tell my closest friend about it so that I've got help and support from someone but there is this part of my mind that believes that if they haven't noticed how much weight I've lost then why would they care enough to want to help me? It sounds silly, I know, but it's what part of me truly believes. So if anyone has any tips that can help me out with telling my friend that would help a lot!

Much thanks,
aribugg

[buttrfli42481]

Check out National Eating Disorders Association they have a lot of great resources on how to tell your friends, parents, providers, etc.

[eskielover]

It's good to have someone to be accountable to....however you need to make sure that if you do tell them that you won't get angry with them when they do hold you accountable for your eating behaviors.

In other words don't ask for help if you really don't want it or if you just want someone to feel sorry for you.

They probably aren't saying anything because they probably believe that if you had a problem you were willing to admit to then you would be the one admitting it. It's only when we admit that we have a problem that it usually indicates we want help getting better.....& they aren't going to force their help or even noticing about it if you aren't taking a handle on it yourself.

EG: It doesn't do any good to tell an alcoholic they are are drinking too much if they don't see they have the problem themselves & if they don't admit they have a problem with alcohol, they aren't about to want anyone's help in stopping their drinking......so many times people just leave others alone until the problem comes out in the open unless there is a dire health issue concerned....like the person's ends up with alcohol poisoning or in the case of anorexia, weight is so low they are going to die.

Definitely a faulty assumption that they should be the ones noticing & commenting about it.