[ALi26]

I am scared to start anything new. I can never makie up my mind. One minute I want to be engaged to my fiance' and the next I am telling him forget it. It is just an example of my indecision. I hate that I cannnot make a solid choice about anything. I am clouded by worry and self doubt. What do I do? How can I stand firm and not question everything?

[gloria]

Some times professional help is the answer, digging inside yourself is the hardest thing to do. If you are willing to go deep into this to change your behavior, well, it is a journey that needs guidance only a professional can give.

Good luck to you.

gab

[Fuzzybear]

I agree with Gab, that seeing a professional therapist or counsellor would help you find the origins of these fears, and hopefully work through them and put them to rest. Good luck!

Take care,
Fuzzy

[nervousnellie]

That sounds all too familiar to me!!
I was with my husband forever before he proposed. And thats what I wanted most of all to happen...and when it did and we went to pick up the ring, I told him to ask if there was a return policy. I will never forget his face and I couldn't believe it myself.

And like you said, this is just an example. For instance, I want to join a yoga class. I had joined before and loved it, but had gone with a friend. This time it will be on my own, and I just can't do it. I have been talking about it for months now.....and my husband can't understand why I can't go join. I cannot make up my mind whether I want that commitment to go or not.

I see a therapist, and am honest with her about this, yet nothing has changed yet. I am optimist it will. Hang in there and I will too.
NN



"This too shall pass"