[EozzoE]

I have a friedn who's using drugs, i let her saty at me house ( in the past shes borrow alot of money from me with promises to pay it back and hasnt) she went through my room, took money out of my jewelery box and then left. She called me later that day to tell me the money was gone and that she'd pay em back but i was furrious. I told her she can't stay at my house b/c i was becoming an enabler. I found drugs in her bag she left at my house. My roomates phone and digital camera is gone. Shes says i'm a blabber mouth and i treat her disrespectfully as a friend for kicking her out, shes told me she was finding a way to payme back. I dont know what to say about the situation or if i've made a good move.It just seems like shes been walking all over my kindness towards her. what should I do!??!?!

[silver_moon]

First of all..... hiiiii! welcome to pc!

your friend is totally out of order, but it sounds like she has an addiction (I know you shouldn't think, oh it's an addiction so I'll cut her some slack), you have to be tough, she needs some help. But, it's not down to you! I think you were put in a very difficult situation, but I do think you did right by telling her she had to leave. But, does she know why... did you tell her she can't take your money and possessions to fuel her addiction 'just because' she's a friend.
This is a tough one, does SHE believe she has a problem? Maybe you can post this again in the Substance and Alcohol Abuse forum? I'm sure there'll be a lot of people who can give you better advice.
But here's some hugs to get you through
((((EozzoE))))
Take care,
Molly

[multipixie9]

hi and welcome to PC.com,

your friend just confessed to committing robbery. she stole money from you - this is more than just a friendship "no no"!!!

if you are absolutely sure she has done things like this before you are making the right move in not letting her stay at your place. if you allowed her to stay in your place and she stole your roommates phone and digital camera she could be arrested if your roommate reports her to the police. yes, you did enable her already when you continued to loan her money when she did not repay you.

just because she "accuses" you of being a blabbermouth and "says" she's looking for a way to pay you back, i'd have to say that her "actions speak louder than words"! i would not waste one minute feeling guilty over your actions toward her. However, you probably owe your roommate a new phone and digital camera since it was your "guest" who stole her things. your friends actions sure seem to indicate a serious problem with drugs and/ or honesty and manipulation.

[FranXD]

Hi,

Well first of all you have every right to be upset. Were human and we have emotions. You and her should sit down with her and talk about her drug abuse... maybe even let her stay with you (hide all your valuables) and help her fight that addiction. Go job hunting with her.. take a yoga class with her so she can stop thinking about drugs and focus on an every day normal life for her... She would appreciate when she is sobered up.

[Stranger2]

Your friend is definitely addicted.. If she is ripping you and your roommate off that is a true sign.. Your right in making her leave.. Just curious what drug is she useing?? If it's crack she has a serious problem because it is one of the hardest drugs to kick..Stay Strong and Firm..