[birdcrazy]

This is getting sad around here.

Grandma has had extreme anxiety for a long time now. Her son and daughter-in-law will blame me for it, or they will say it was something like she wasn't taking her medication on time, or they will say that she is faking to get attention, or worst of all, I am causing it somehow. They even told me that when I was gone for a few weeks, she wasn't acting this way, but other relatives have told me that was a lie.

Anyway, she told the docs at the hospital that she thinks about horrible things happening to people all the time, and she even comes close to SI and barely can stop not doing it. But her daughter-in-law especially keeps saying she is doing this for attention and is lying about cutting herself.

So anyway, she spends two days at hospital where they also treated a potassium shortage and an infection. Her anxiety goes away and she is fine, so they release her.

But after being released and they take her back home, she starts to cry and get upset again. This time, she thought a chainsaw in the distance was children screaming for some reason. Anyway, her son and daughter-in-law are saying I'm causing it on purpose, which I would never do, and are saying she's faking it or she didn't have her medication early enough, but truthfully she was doing that before it was time for her meds, but I told my aunt that are she just yelled at me, slammed the door and left.

Her son doesn't react well either, he just starts to yell, curses, etc... when his mom is upset.

I'm going to call doctor again myself later, and also e-mail a distant relative that is concerned about his mom's care. I am getting sick of her son and daughter-in-law not giving her her anxiety meds, accusing her of faking it, etc....

[Lisa Michelle]

Oh, I'm really sorry to hear things are so bad for your grandma. If she on meds it's important to take it at the recommended dose, as obviously it won't be working properly if she's skipping it here and there (as I know you know, but it's a shame her son and daughter in law are not taking care of this properly!).
We've been having problems with my grandad lately. Totally different situation, he's not eating right and he smokes too much and his health is deteriorating, but I know how it feels to be worried for a loved one and to feel kinda of... helpless? to really help them.
Do you spend much time with your grandma? Does she do anything in her daily life which she enjoys? Those are important things for anxiety too, I think. Is she ok with leaving the house? Just getting outdoors, into nature, helps me a LOT with my anxiety, I just feel so calm when I am somewhere beautiful, plus there are other health benefits.

Good on you for being concerned for your grandma and trying to look after her - I'm sure she appreciates it so much. I hope the doctor can do something for her, when you call him.
x

Hope you can get this sorted, birdcrazy.