[JustDontAsk]

Yeah, it sounds stupid, I know...

I'm not sure if it belongs here, but I'd like to get it out there somewhere...And I feel like this is the right place maybe...I'm sorry if it's not.

I want to be able to post more on this website in some of the forums, but I only tend to private message or chat...I feel like when I post on a forum that I am totally throwing myself out in the open. Maybe because I am? But I get nervous about it. I get nervous about writing something to post, even. I'm nervous about writing this...It's kind of a mess. I feel like maybe someone would be able to relate if I post...But I also feel like someone could say hurtful things to me too...Or that nobody really cares and that nobody will really say anything to what I post...And I don't really know how to fix how I feel so that maybe I can suck it up and just post something that is on my mind sometime...?

I guess it's just a bunch of rambling...Sorry. But I was wondering if anyone else ever feels like this when they post...?

I struggle with my emotions sometimes, and with my situation...And so sharing it with a ton of people is a scary idea to me sometimes...Also, I'm not a very trusting person...So that is kind of an issue too...

Thanks for reading this if you made it all the way through my words of nothingness...And I hope you all are well. Take care.

JDA

[Piraeus]

I have anxiety about posting sometimes. I just feel that people will not be interested in what I have to say.But I have to get things off my chest, so I post anyways. I would like to feel that I am helping someone when I post, but I don't know.I look forward to reading more post's from you Just Don't Ask.

[JustDontAsk]

Thanks for the reply...It takes away a lot of the nervousness for that first reply...And I often feel that people will not care about what I say too. (Not sure how to say that without sounding harsh, sorry...) So a lot of times I hesitate to post...But thanks for the reply again, it means a lot.

[Tommy3]

I know how you feel JustDontAsk. I can relate to some extent. I also find it hard to trust people and fear negative criticism when I post. Feel free to message me to chat if you'd like

[wagneriansinger]

You go girl: post away! Everybody here wants to be helpful and we love reading about each other's trials and tribulations, trust me. Gives us a chance to focus on somebody else's problems, hehe (actually that's probably truer than we think...)

Hope that helps.



Anne

[kindachaotic]

YOu are certainly not alone! I struggle with what to say in *every* single post.
Write something then delete parts & re-write or delete all of it...
For that reason I don't post much & when I do it's short & hopefully sweet.
This thread of yours is very well written, keep at it.
See, you got responses.

Hey You made a good start. I also have big reservations about starting a thread if it's about my mental or physical health issues. Different reasons than yours but same basic reservations about opening up.
Maybe you can just start out slow without revealing too much and get into deeper and more sensitive issues as you become more comfortable with opening up.

Responding to "help" posts is also difficult. The compassion is there but its usually hard to find something really helpful to say.

[dailyhealing]

Thanks for posting this JustDontAsk! I get nervous about posting things too, for me that fear of judgment is very strong. Therefore I usually don't post personal things too often, and I too do most of that discussion through PMs. But sometimes putting things out there for everyone can give you a new perspective you haven't thought of, and support of course! I am glad you had the courage to put this out there, you certainly aren't the only one who has this fear. And while I understand that fear of someone saying something hurtful, I think people around here tend to be very supportive and positive! I hope you keep posting as you feel able to take those risks!

[misscath007]

I get nervous about it too. I think it's common to worry about what other people will think, even if they are strangers! I recently started a post in the Depression forum and was worried that no one would answer. Luckily, some people did respond. Sometimes you may get responses that you have trouble reading also. You aren't alone in your fear.

[JustDontAsk]

Thanks for the replies everyone...It helps to know that I'm not alone.

I did post a few threads when I first joined, but I hope they kind of got buried. The idea that my life is out there is a little weird to think about. I debated on sending those too, not sure why I did...

And yes, I did get responses kindachaotic. Extremely glad. Thank you. To all of you.

I really feel like I should probably post on some other things that have happened recently...But I don't know yet. I guess everyone starts somewhere...

And to George H., thank you for that second perspective on this. I never thought that maybe people just don't know what to say, but that they do care...One of my faults is assuming the worst about things...

I'm just really hoping the risk of posting is well worth the reward...when I get there, of course. (I don't know that I exactly count this as a post yet...)

Thanks again to everyone for the replies!!!