[JustLikeHeaven]

I have 'high functioning' aspergers (whatever difference my 'degree' of the disease is supposed to make.)

On top of my issues relating to people, and empathy, I also suffer from anxiety and depression. I have ONE friend and no life.

I seem incapable of finding people that will wade through my 'emotional crap' to see who I really am.

How does someone that suffers from a social disorder, is afraid of the world and generally lacks a lust for life find someone to love.

Is that kind of person even 'loveable'?

[allimsaying]

From those able, we all are worthy of love. Thank goodness for those people. I just want to say being alone is really a temporary matter. Its hard to move past tho. Dont go out to meet people. Youll only be disappointed. Follow your own interests and heart. Others are already there to meet you.

[Feral_Cat_Lover]

((Hugs)) I think all people are lovable. When the right special someone comes into your life, you will know it. There's no point in chasing Mr. or Ms. Wrong. The perfect compliment to you will come when it's the right time. They will see you for who you are and will be willing to stick by you regardless of what other people think or say. Trust me. ((Hugs))

Sometimes i wonder if i have asperger's, as did my previous psychologist, and I identify with a lot of the descriptions you wrote of yourself.

Originally Posted by Feral_Cat_Lover

((Hugs)) I think all people are lovable. When the right special someone comes into your life, you will know it. There's no point in chasing Mr. or Ms. Wrong. The perfect compliment to you will come when it's the right time. They will see you for who you are and will be willing to stick by you regardless of what other people think or say. Trust me. ((Hugs))

i was going to say that... the right person will love you for who you are

[christopeach]

Hi, Just like heaven, one thing is for sure we are not alone, in a way it is quite warming to hear others have the same issues and that we are not alone in feeling so very alone, I too have AS and find the whole high functioning thing confusing, are some of us just better at learning to communicate? Is that what makes us High Functioning? Because we all have learnt behaviors and just because we can communicate in a Neurotypical manner does not mean that waht we say is what we mean?

[christopeach]

I have a very loving and understanding partner, he is trying his best to drag me out of Anxiety and Depression, trying to engage me with others, but it is very hard, I need a few drinks before I can engage in any social situation "Dutch Courage" I guess even then it is hard to maintain interest and focus on others. I think some of the replies are true and good as your special interests might hold the right person there waiting for you.

[OrangeMoira]

You are lovable! You will find people to love you by reaching out and connecting, like you are doing here.

In real life, you may have a harder time communicating with people, but what's inside of you is a good and lovable person who deserves care and attention. When people can see who you are, they can appreciate you.

Lots of people are anxious and afraid of the world. Take the steps you can take at any given time and you will function better over time. Hugs to you if that's okay!

[ddowner]

I often feel unlovable and I have a ton of emotional crap that people have stopped being my friend over because it can be a lot to deal with. My ex boyfriend told me to "snap out of it and stop relying on other people" for things. I feel like he never understood my depression and where I came from, despite knowing my situation growing up and up until meeting him. He sure didn't want to "deal" with me. I think a lot of people are "broken" and people who are just as bad off or have been through a lot of the same things are the only ones who every truly understand. Just know that you aren't alone.