[frankguy]

I really feel like I compain a lot, or at least talk about my problems to people too much. Any advice on how I can deal with this feeling I have that I'm pushing people away by this? I know I shouldn't be obsessed with what people think of me, but I really feel like I'm going in the other direction when I am myself and am upset around my friends.

[Christina86]

Hi frankguy

I feel that way too a lot of the time. Strange thing is, most people wind up telling me that I don't speak too much, but that I don't do it enough!!

Truthfully, any conversation you have (one-on-one) with a friend should be 50-50 in regards to speaking time UNLESS one person really doesn't mind speaking less than that.

Its hard trying to not worry about what people are thinking of me when I start talking too. If they are good friends, they will reinforce (support) you when you talk about your problems. If they don't though... they're not really that good of a friend.

If you ever want to talk, please feel free to PM me.

[Dezdemona]

I know what you mean. I find I don't talk a lot in social situations either. I think it has to do with the fact that I'm introverted, so I tend to think introspectively.

Another thing is, I cannot do small talk, so I tend to kind of dive right in, which tends to push ppl away. I dont talk about my issues, as I feel its very private, and also because I'm afraid that people might get sick of me.

I dont know if this helps you at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I have a good idea of what you're going through.

[Estee1]

Oh, you people are so like me. I'm so deep. Nothing else interests me or catches my attention.

[ster]

I tend to push people away also. I don't do it intentionaly it just happens I wish I knew what I do that causes it. At least I can let you know your not the only one