[lostsoul2013]

Hi
Just wanted to post as I don't feel great. Does anyone else feel so alone and as if no one wants to know them? I know that this is probably a symptom of my anxiety. When I went to see my GP I felt like I was wasting her time, when I chat to people I feel like I'm being selfish and don't deserve to be heard. I feel like my counsellor doesn't want me there and that I'm a burden to everyone.
I just wish I could feel a bit better. Feel so tired and alone.

[optimize990h]

Have you discussed this with your counsellor? It needs to be discussed with your counsellor regarding what coping skills are needed for you.

I have had this type of feeling in the past. I have a treatment plan and helpful things that get me to cope with such feelings. It is something that I have to keep working at.

That was just explaining you are not alone. I like to focus on the now and work at that so feeing alone is left out. I feel less alone if I do the word games distractions. Others are there sometimes so I don't feel alone.

Hope you feel less tired and depressed soon.

[lostsoul2013]

Thanks for your post Optimize

Being here I feel less alone and it helps that others have felt the same way. I'm seeing my counsellor tomorrow so will discuss this with her. The first 2 sessions have been just pouring everything out and I feel like I've had to repeat some things, but I want to try and work on coping skills.

Thank you for the hugs. They are much appreciated. I like your picture of Buddy

[spondiferous]

Hey lostsoul - sorry to hear you're struggling right now. I'm glad you're finding some relief from the forums though. I used to feel the way you described in the past - all through my teens and twenties. I still feel that way sometimes but thankfully it usually passes pretty quickly. Just know that it does get better, even if you don't feel that way now. It might not happen right away...but you've got support here, and it sounds like you're beginning to get support there.

[lostsoul2013]

Thank you Spondiferous

I will see how things go with my counsellor. I believe it can sometimes take time to find the right one for you. I just feel very vulnerable and exposed at the moment and I feel I can't trust anyone. I know that's probably the anxiety dictating my feelings, but it feels very scarey and real.

Take care.

[spondiferous]

You're right, it can take awhile. In the meantime if you need anyone to talk to feel free to pm me. I usually check in at least once a day.

[avlady]

It does take time just like developing a relationship with anyone, you have to get to know about someone first before you can really open up

[lostsoul2013]

Originally Posted by avlady

It does take time just like developing a relationship with anyone, you have to get to know about someone first before you can really open up

Thank you avlady
I'm hoping that things will work out. Otherwise I'll look for someone else. I know that it takes a lot of work from yourself too, which can be hard when you don't have the energy. I hope you're ok.

[tinyrabbit]

I used to feel like this a lot and the tough thing is that it becomes self-fulfilling - you expect to be rejected, so you kind of make that happen unconsciously, as people pick up on that resistance from you. I'm not blaming you! I'm just saying that it can be a pattern or a cycle that you can get stuck in. It's hard when you don't have that self-belief. Sending hugs.

[lostsoul2013]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I used to feel like this a lot and the tough thing is that it becomes self-fulfilling - you expect to be rejected, so you kind of make that happen unconsciously, as people pick up on that resistance from you. I'm not blaming you! I'm just saying that it can be a pattern or a cycle that you can get stuck in. It's hard when you don't have that self-belief. Sending hugs.

Thanks for your reply.
I do understand where you're coming from and I think I'm stuck in that cycle. Can I ask how you managed to break the cycle? I know it takes practice.