[Universal23]

I feel like I need to get away...move out of my state and start fresh. I currently live in Connecticut, I'm 22 in Uni and can't seem to make it work here. I've developed this sort of social anxiety or confidence disorder that makes me socially awkward yet I am 90% normal. I feel I just can't connect with ppl here and I hate the winters...I have no friends anymore, all I do is train in the gym and diet to the point where I basically look like a bodybuilder..IDK whats wrong with me!

[live2ski66]

Hi, I saw your other post. Usually when I start thinking that I need to move because my current location doesn't fit it's because I'm slipping down the abyss of depression. Your other post asked what was wrong with you. I don't know what you have, but I do recommend talking to someone before moving. You might find out that once you feel better you like CT.

[NWgirl2013]

If you did move, what would you do differently to connect with people? Are there places that offer more of the sorts of things you like that you could share with others?

The move itself will not be the answer, but what you are willing to put into it after you get settled.
If you are lonely now, you will be lonely when you move if you don't sort this out first.

Best to you as you work out what it's gonna take to make you happy...

[healingme4me]

Do you have any family or close friends, in other states, you could move closer to, if you did? What about job opportunities? Additional schooling? A reason, to get there, without venturing without a purpose for staying. Can you travel, to wherever it may be of interest, acclimate to the local culture, check out areas of interest, before taking such a plunge?

It is true, your anxiety will follow you, no matter where, once the placebo effect wears down, would you feel the need to seek another location, or feel trapped by this major decision?

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Sometimes moving - or just traveling - can work wonders. There's an old Yiddish saying that, when translated, means "Change your place and change your luck".

[redbandit]

Does the winter make you depressed? I understand it's really hard to get out with friends if you're depressed. I imagine it gets really cold in CT! For me, oddly enough, I get more depressed in the summer. I just hate the heat and want to stay inside in the AC
I hope you feel better! Maybe a trip down south would help!

Australia and italy are beautiful places to live

I understand needing to get away.

[PoorPrincess]

Originally Posted by NWgirl2013

If you did move, what would you do differently to connect with people? Are there places that offer more of the sorts of things you like that you could share with others?

The move itself will not be the answer, but what you are willing to put into it after you get settled.
If you are lonely now, you will be lonely when you move if you don't sort this out first.

Best to you as you work out what it's gonna take to make you happy...

Wise counsel, NWgirl. Very wise.
I wish that I could have waited, weighed it all out, before I came 3000 miles.