[chris5572]

How do other people handle things. Girlfriend stops talking to you, lose stuff or just things go wrong. The question is how do you stop treating it like it is the end of the world and feeling like there is no use in going on. I am hurting but know I need to stop this end of the world feeling. Please help

[LaborIntensive]

I find that a few things I do help with this.

1. Stop listening to aggressive music
2. Drink some tea and sit outside with it.
3. I smoke a pipe so I will often bring that with me to
4. Go the gym or go walking, riding your bike, etc.
5. Talk to a friend about the issue but don't abuse them with repeating the issue over and over

Hope that helps a little. My issues have become far better as I got older.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Chris, perhaps you could focus more on the "why"'s or on solutions a little more do you think? e.g. why isn't your girlfriend talking to you? miscommunication? disagreements? differences? then what could you do to help you both put it right? find a compromise? talk a little more so you can both explain your views? agree to disagree? and what can you do to try to stop something like that happening again?
If you've lost something then can you work out where it is? what can you do to replace it? what can you do to prevent you losing something like that again?
Things aren't always going to go right, and there may be periods when lots of things go wrong together so it's as much about how you handle things and move on.
And you know at the end of it all it's the achievement that's going to matter in getting through something, in doing what you can to learn from whatever it is, in doing what you can to make something better. So see it more as an opportunity to shine!!
And you know even if something is really tough then sometimes good stuff can come out of it e.g. if your girlfriend isn't talking to you and you feel like talking to a friend for advise then that shows you how much they're there for you, or could strengthen the friendship bit more?
And focus as well on the positives going on for you?? Big things might not stand out to the degree of the thing that's gone wrong, but maybe if you think about it you might be able to add up lots of little positives to better compensate?
And hey, it might help to talk a little too and share what's going on for you?
We're here if you just want to let it out and see where it goes from there.....if we can offer support/understanding/advise??
Alison