[aqsam]

Because I really got help from some very sweet people, I decided to discuss another problem of my life that's shattering me life nowadays. I belong to a middle class family. Both of my parents worked hard for us. During wedding of my uncle, some 14,15 years ago, I noticed how well settled all of my other relatives were. This thing hit me. I was young and was studying in 6th grade that time. After when this feeling arose, I started ignoring people around me. Specially those who I thought were better than us financially. This inferiority complex led me to some very serious problems. I was called proud, arrogant,nerd and what not by people. Anyhow, times is getting better now as I am an engineer by profession and doing a good job in foreign as well. The thing is Cars scare me. Not because of the only reason that I would hit somebody on road, but that complex inside me is not leaving now. The idea of owning a car makes me anxious. i learned driving from two instructors and they gave me OK report. Though I still have phobia of getting stuck in the middle f heavy traffic. I drive fine when alone. Now that company is deciding to provide us cars, I am worried. Their at my home, my parents are bought a car also and I am not going on vacations since 1 and a half year just because of the reason that I would have to sit on the gear. Please Please suggest something. This is making me hate myself and I feel sick sometimes.

[radioactive1]

I know what you mean about heavy traffic. That makes me anxious as well. I just try to focus on dealing with the situation and getting to my destination. I used to really get mad at people because of the way they drove, but now I am for the most part over that. I think the reason I was dealing with the anxiety was because I felt like I was not in control of everything when I was in traffic. However, now, I have learned I just have to relax and do my best to get through the heavy traffic.