[FourEyesAK]

Right now, I'm scared and feeling a lot of anxiety.

My husband is in California on a family emergency. His younger sister has been fighting leukemia and has developed a lot of complications. She is currently in the hospital after having a seizure and things are not looking very good right now and my husband is down there to help out how he can. Of course I am worried about my husband. He lost his mother to cancer almost 9 years ago, his father is in poor health and his sister is at death's door. My husband is, very understandably, very upset.

As for myself, I met his sister only a couple times before we were married over 12 years ago and we have never chatted or had a relationship. But I'm still worried about her. She's 35 and dying. She has 3 kids ages 7, 12 and 17. It just is a terrible situation that isn't fair.

I've been dealing with an acute bout of anxiety and depression recently and ended up quitting my job because the stress was too much. I wish there was something I could do (that doesn't involve flying to CA because I have a flying phobia) that would help.

I just feel helpless and useless and I can't control my own feelings of fear and anxiety to focus on helping my husband through his pain.

Sorry you're going through that, but many here know how you feel... separate from the crisis going on have you tried meds for the general depression/anxiety?

[perseverance11]

Originally Posted by FourEyesAK

Right now, I'm scared and feeling a lot of anxiety.

My husband is in California on a family emergency. His younger sister has been fighting leukemia and has developed a lot of complications. She is currently in the hospital after having a seizure and things are not looking very good right now and my husband is down there to help out how he can. Of course I am worried about my husband. He lost his mother to cancer almost 9 years ago, his father is in poor health and his sister is at death's door. My husband is, very understandably, very upset.

As for myself, I met his sister only a couple times before we were married over 12 years ago and we have never chatted or had a relationship. But I'm still worried about her. She's 35 and dying. She has 3 kids ages 7, 12 and 17. It just is a terrible situation that isn't fair.

I've been dealing with an acute bout of anxiety and depression recently and ended up quitting my job because the stress was too much. I wish there was something I could do (that doesn't involve flying to CA because I have a flying phobia) that would help.

I just feel helpless and useless and I can't control my own feelings of fear and anxiety to focus on helping my husband through his pain.

Hello,

I understand how you feel.
When there are a lot of problems in our life, we often panic.

Are you in a crisis now?

Maybe you could call a crisis line or go in a crisis center to relax a bit.

Do you have medication?

[FourEyesAK]

Thank you for your responses. I really appreciate it. No, I'm not on medication at this time, although I probably should be. I'm not in a crisis, thankfully. My family and friends are good about distracting me and helping me regain some perspective.

We were given even sadder news about my sister in law. There is nothing more doctors can do for her and she was sent home today with hospice care. Doctors say that it will likely only be a few days before she passes . She was awake and aware and is okay with dying, which made my husband feel somewhat better about letting her go, which in turn relieves some of my anxiety.