[pisces22]

My older sister is getting married this June and she lives in TX and it's a long way from here, we live in CA. My twin sister is extremely afraid of flying, she refuses to travel on an airplane so we are considering traveling on bus but it's too many hours. I've also heard that you're more likely to die traveling on a car/bus than on a plane and that makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable. I'd rather get on a airplane, it's less time and safer but my sister feels more comfortable and safe by land. Does anyone have a suggestions?

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[pisces22]

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[lizzyjb]

I have Pannic to fly too, I understand her. So if I have to do, I take some Valium. It helps me a lot because at least it relax me. Put it under the tongue when I take my seat.
But if she's really scared I'd do it by land. Any night train?

[Calm]

I can relate to your sister's intense fear. I don't have a fear of flying but have other intense phobias. I wouldn't want to be swayed into doing something that terrifies me because the outcome just might intensify her phobia even more. She doesn't need that for sure. If she isn't seeing a therapist for treatment of her phobias then that also makes it more difficult. Isn't it possible for you to fly and she can go by train or car? Would she be willing to make the trip there by herself driving or by train?

[pisces22]

Originally Posted by lizzyjb

I have Pannic to fly too, I understand her. So if I have to do, I take some Valium. It helps me a lot because at least it relax me. Put it under the tongue when I take my seat.
But if she's really scared I'd do it by land. Any night train?

Thanks! I'm gonna ask her if she'll consider taking it. Does it need to be prescribed by a doctor?


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[lizzyjb]

Originally Posted by pisces22

Thanks! I'm gonna ask her if she'll consider taking it. Does it need to be prescribed by a doctor?


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Yes, you need a doc prescription. But I wouldn't try it. you should be sure that your sister is going to be well so if she is not in treatment or she is extremely scared you should take her by land. Maybe force her can do that a little fear turn into a traumatic situations. I wouldn't do it.
Don't force her. It can be worse for her. I have read in another tread that your twin sister have pannic attacks. She shouldn't fly.

[pisces22]

Originally Posted by lizzyjb

Yes, you need a doc prescription. But I wouldn't try it. you should be sure that your sister is going to be well so if she is not in treatment or she is extremely scared you should take her by land. Maybe force her can do that a little fear turn into a traumatic situations. I wouldn't do it.
Don't force her. It can be worse for her. I have read in another tread that your twin sister have pannic attacks. She shouldn't fly.

No, we would never force her. I have fears that I can't control so I understand. We're just trying to help her and see what options we have. We're not gonna do anything she's not comfortable with. Thanks for the advice

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[pisces22]

Originally Posted by Calm

I can relate to your sister's intense fear. I don't have a fear of flying but have other intense phobias. I wouldn't want to be swayed into doing something that terrifies me because the outcome just might intensify her phobia even more. She doesn't need that for sure. If she isn't seeing a therapist for treatment of her phobias then that also makes it more difficult. Isn't it possible for you to fly and she can go by train or car? Would she be willing to make the trip there by herself driving or by train?

You guys are right. Forcing people to face their fears is not a way to help someone get over their fears. I have intense fears of my own so I understand her completely.

I don't think she would like to travel alone. We support her and understand her. We're gonna do whatever she's comfortable with!

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[Calm]

I hope everything will work out well for everyone involved. Happy and safe traveling to you all.

[pisces22]

Originally Posted by Calm

I hope everything will work out well for everyone involved. Happy and safe traveling to you all.

Thank you so much!

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[manic_monday]

I have the same phobia. It isn't so much a fear of flying, but a fear of not being in control of every move. Add that fact to being high up in the sky thousands of miles, especially over water... I have complete breakdowns. The only thing that's ever helped me is Xanax, which you need a prescription for, or melatonin, which is a natural supplement you can get at any supermarket. It's for sleep aid but it has calming properties as well. And honestly, sleeping through a flight is the only way to get through it sometimes. I introduced these two medications into my daily routine so I knew how my body would respond to them on a plane.

At the end of the day, I prefer taking the bus or train over flying. It's much more relaxing, you can see what's going on around you and there's a sense of control being on the ground. Feeling safe is the number one priority.

[CaptTomBunn]

You can find in depth discussion of these issues on the "Conquer Fear of Flying" blog at psychologytoday dot com