[HelloWorld18]

I'm rather shocked, because my friend and his entire family are extremely close with my family, my Aunt is basically sisters with his mom.

So we've known each other for a pretty long time, and I thought we were getting real close. Today, i find out that my good friend's mom has talked about me behind my back. Comes at no surprise because she is a huge gossiper, but comes at a surprise because I've been so completely respectful of their family. Like when i found out my friend smoked an ecig at the age of 14 and smoked cigs at 12, I kept it just between us. I didn't let my parents know. And when I found out rather quickly how much of a foul mouth he has i kept that a secret too. And how he bad mouths the cops saying they are useless while i defended them. So today, I found out that his mom talked about me, last night she got mad cause we were being loud while she slept, and as she went up to bed she said "you guys are like a bunch of babies". so i thought she said that out of anger. but this morning she had a talk with my friend aka her son and she said "you both need to grow up, he's almost 20 acting 14 and you're like a child". That hurt. ill be honest. Ill also be honest and add that i am immature for my age. I'm 19 yrs old (just turned) and i act like I'm 15-16 yrs old. but none the less it hurt. I later found out that as we were all shopping, she talked about how it annoys her how I'm always on my phone. I really am not always on it, her son and me are on it equally.

my day has been ruined. I'm very hurt by this whole thing. i don't know whether or not I'm being overly sensitive about this or what. I've spent a full week with this family, so my patience is probably at its limit. as he has "poked fun" (a little bit) about my cutting and he has be antagonizing me about me cutting myself saying its the "p*ssy" way to deal with things, he's also invaded my privacy several times (all in fun, but still annoying) by coming in on me while I'm using the bathroom and staying in there as well as while i was taking a bath. a few times i have wanted to cut myself. I finally leave tomorrow, and one thing is for sure, i will not be seeing him, nor missing him for quite a while.

Im sorta venting, but i also want opinions.

[HelloWorld18]

honestly, he's the type of kid you WOULDNT want your daughters dating. You look at him and automatically assume he's trouble (cause he is, but she thinks he's the sweetest angel alive). Im done covering for him, I'm done helping this family try to appear good toward my family. I plan to open the "pandora's box" toward my dad, and hopefully he will spread the word. i feel completely betrayed that she would do this. I've went so far to call him my second mom and she would call me her other son. Im hurt, i wonder what else they talk about behind my back...

[healingme4me]

Feeling betrayed is the pits. My stepmother is a gossiping type. Life is better, when there is space. I'd also feel leary of an invasion of privacy like you've experienced.

Just live your truth. Who needs the kick 'em when they're down types? Do their opinions, truly matter, when this is the type of character they display? In the long term, most certainly, not. In the short term, may sting a bit.

Are you coming clean to your dad, about SH?

[birdpumpkin]

My mom and sister talk about me behind my back. When we were staying with my parents for a month after our fire, she would be on the phone with my sister, and I knew when she walked off into another room, she was talking about me or my husband, whom both of them pretty much dislike in a large way. That was hard. Now that I've been dealing with a lot of anxiety and seeking help, I know I'm a part of their phone conversations here and there again. I feel like the odd one out in a way. Or like a target or something. It hasn't harmed relations really, but it does make me feel awkward around my sister sometimes because I know she probably knows everything I've talked about with mom.

[winter4me]

Your privacy should never be invaded. Please don't hurt yourself, or feel badly about yourself when the behavior you describe is not only petty, but speaks volumes about the person talking, and nothing about you as a person.
You may want to back off, find other, healthier people to hang out with...
The "behaviors" you describe for yourself sound pretty much age-expected.