[ShantheArtist23]

So it's inevetible that my mom and dad are getting divorced. Every time he comes up my mom is so unhappy. Like yesterday he came and she practically made a scene by giving him his jewelry box an saying "Make sure you take this when you go". I don't know. But I don't want him to come for Christmas this year because I feel like it's his way of trying to buy his way back into my life and my sisters life by getting us gifts and stuff. Plus every single year we would do gifts together he'd sleep through the whole thing and then leave at noon. "There's stuff I gotta do" he's say. And he'd leave again. How should I tell him that we don't want him up for Christmas this year? This honestly sucks.

It's your Christmas, ShantheArtist23, you should be able to do with it as you choose. Just tell him you need some space this year.

[Bipolartist]

You have to stand up for your mental health, no matter what. My first thought was, before reading the whole post, "Aw, poor Dad, you don't want him to spend the day alone." But if he says he has too much going on anyway, sleeps then leaves at noon, the worst part will be the actual saying something like, "I think it's going to be really uncomfortable this Christmas..." However, if he does show up, let him eat, sleep, and leave.

I don't think he's going to be crushed if you tell him to not come. But it's still a sad story. Even say like, "Maybe just this year." Who knows, things might be more comfortable next year. I should say, situations like this make me really dislike the "prescribed" and commercial holiday traditions.

Hang in there and please keep us updated. I'm going to check to see how this works out.

[ShantheArtist23]

Thanks guys. I'll keep you updated. But it's not a selfish thing, I swear. It's a lot more complicated than that. I'll keep you updated.