[hunterisgroovy]

i feel like something is really wrong with me because i always want to be alone. i never miss my friends, i always have to talk myself into missing them if that makes sense. i want to want to have a social life of some kind like i see so many others have. i just cant seem to want to be around others. the only person i somewhat enjoy being around is my close family. (my mom, brother, and nana) other than them it just seems like a chore to be around people. im always tired and stay in my room most of the time lying in bed, playing on my phone, watching movies, or sleeping. i dont even want to leave the house anymore. if i do hang out w friends, they come to my house, as i have trouble staying the night away from home. im so tired of this. im working with a therapist but i just need reassurance that someone feels the same or understands to some extent.

[kaliope]

hi hunterisgroovy
you are not alone. i dont like people either. lol...it isnt that i dont like them, it just seems easier to not be around them. i dont have many relationships because it seems to take so much energy to maintain them and i dont seem to have that energy. i like the idea of having friends, i just dont pick up the phone to talk to them and i actually feel offended when my phone rings. like someone is violating my space. if people want to be friends with me, they pretty much have to stay in touch with me or there isnt much or a relationship. i will return calls, texts, emails but i dont initiate them. i live alone, i never leave my apt, i dont even like to get my mail or take my trash out for fear of having to talk to someone. it is sad because i dont even have a connection to my children. i was baffled that they still stayed in touch with me after they left home. i tested as having the traits of schizoid personality disorder which would explain why i have difficulty connecting with people. my phd also thinks it can be because of my ptsd. it is something i am working on and trying to open up more to others. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

i don't like people either.

with me, it's down to them not getting it, not understanding, and not being supportive

i agree with what was said above. it's just a chore to go and hang out with someone, especially if you and that person have nothing at all in common.

welcome to the site!

[wiretwister]

it's not that i don't like people, I just don't want anyone under my roof or under foot..just too much effort with so little return

[hunterisgroovy]

Originally Posted by wiretwister

it's not that i don't like people, I just don't want anyone under my roof or under foot..just too much effort with so little return

its not that i dont like people either. i do like most people... however, i find myself getting jealous a lot of others who have social lives, who are so much prettier than me, or just the fact that they can do whatever without debilitating anxiety and low self esteem. lol i guess maybe i just need to get out of the house more and do things im just so tired and dont want to deal with the anxiety that comes with it. thank you all for the replies. it's nice to know others feel like this sometimes.

[mountain human]

Originally Posted by hunterisgroovy

its not that i dont like people either. i do like most people... however, i find myself getting jealous a lot of others who have social lives, who are so much prettier than me, or just the fact that they can do whatever without debilitating anxiety and low self esteem. lol i guess maybe i just need to get out of the house more and do things im just so tired and dont want to deal with the anxiety that comes with it. thank you all for the replies. it's nice to know others feel like this sometimes.

I want to isolate to avoid rejection, being judged, criticized, etc. It's called social anxiety. When I isolate, I eventually get lonely and depressed. It's a vicious cycle that get's harder to break over time. For me it doesn't just go away, I have to face some risks out in that world.

[8643]

I'm 34 years old and the last 10 years of my life I'm became such a recluse and withdrawn from society. I haven't had a friend in over 8 years. I urge you to be patient and find a common ground between seeing friends some times, yet having "your time" to recharge. I hear it's healthy to have friends and be social.