[actionjackson]

I am a 21 year old male and I have been dating this girl for a couple months now and the first month was the greatest month of my life. I have been getting these feelings of wanting to bail for the past month. Before this relationship I have never had a good relationship or had one last more than a month. I think the fear of losing her and the pressure I put on myself to make it work has stressed me out beyond belief to where I don't want to do anything. I'm scared that the feelings of wanting to bail will come back when I am with her that I don't want to see her sometimes. When I am relaxed and try to control my thoughts it is better but they are often hard to control. Idk if it is her that is causing the thoughts or just my paranoia about relationships. Help please

[healingme4me]

Just stepping back, internally, take a deep breath. Ask if there are any red flags, that maybe are being overlooked. Those can trigger a desire to flee, not pinpointing or understanding specifically can create inner turmoil.
Then, ask yourself if there are little whoops moments that you might be doing, that breed fear. Fear of losing your relationship.
Could be a mix or none of anything I've mentioned.
Not a good sign, to have such feelings while being with another. Doubts often fall, after, when reflecting.

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[kaliope]

hi actionjackson
i think it is more your fears about relationships that is causing the anxiety. it is easier to bail on a relationship then have it end. try to enjoy the experience. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome