[Chocopiano27]

Hii!! So i'm just a girl with a weird soap-opera-like life. I'm really hoping for some solutions from you guys. hoping for the best here!

I go to an all girl high school to help me cure this problem, but it didn't work. And my situation actually worsen..

So these are probably the MAIN cause of my problem:
1) I'm an extrovert who loves to talk, party, spending time with friends, and meeting new friends. But i'm really bad at handling 'popular girls'. Idk why, but everytime i'm near them it's as if i can't speak. I suddenly become really quiet and awkward.
2) I'm uncomfortable if i don't receive many likes, and if i don't have a lot of followers in my media social account. My friends have at least 200+, but i just have around 100..
3) I can't accept myself for who i am. Whether it's about my feelings, my looks, etc. I can't accept that i can be sad, i can feel lonely, etc.. It's hard to love life if i don't even accept and love myself.

I really don't know what to do.. I tried lots of things but it just didn't work. I just want to be a nice, wonderful, cheerful girl that i used to be back then. Well that's it i guess.. Wish me luck and thank you guys!

[Agentfyre]

I have a strong thought when I read your post. The thing that comes to mind is that it's always irrational to compare ourselves to the way we used to be. Don't take that the wrong way, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you or anything. What I'm saying is that we go through stages in our lives, and we constantly change. I used to constantly compare myself to my younger self, until through therapy I realized that doing this was just another way for my depression to condemn myself. It wasn't enough that I didn't feel like I didn't measure up to others, I also felt that I didn't measure up to myself.

It's an important distinction, and the remedy is learning how to love yourself. Don't think about how you used to be, instead make goals for yourself that you can achieve. And if depression or other things get in the ways of those goals, seek the help you need.

I hope this is helpful.

[striking]

You won't find meaningful acceptance of one's self through others. Also comparing yourself to your own belief of someone else's perfection will only lead to disappointment.

Why do you find it difficult to accept yourself? Have you discussed with a counselor?

[Chocopiano27]

Originally Posted by striking

You won't find meaningful acceptance of one's self through others. Also comparing yourself to your own belief of someone else's perfection will only lead to disappointment.

Why do you find it difficult to accept yourself? Have you discussed with a counselor?

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Yes i've discussed it with a counselor. It's because i have past experiences that makes me feel really low about myself and stop trusting anyone, including myself. I've already decided to keep on fighting this feeling and surprisingly my effort is not a waste of time. Yes there's still some problem, but now i feel much better