[AnxiousGirl]

I'm so fed up right now so this might be long (I have GAD). I'm 19 and all my life I've been the person who puts family and school before anything. From a young age I cared about school very much. I would always stay home on weekends to study for hours and hours and would aim to get the highest grades. I graded high school with a 90 average and got into a a top university but something happened and I had to leave and now I'm in college. I got a scholarship and I'm going into my second year this fall. But I've realized that because of this I'm ignored. Not by everyone, I mean I have like 8 friends who are amazing and they respect my priorities but mostly by my family members (i.e cousins). I have cousins that range from 18 up to 24 (they all have bf's, and gf,s and I've never had one) and they LOVE to party, get drunk, smoke, and go out 24/7 not caring about school. I dont drink, go out, smoke, or party and I'm turning 20 soon (go ahead, laugh). I know I shouldnt care but they go out together all the time, to cottages, outings, parties... I know I said I don't party or anything but I figure it would be nice to at least ask right? I mean if I knew someone who didn't like to do something I did, I would still ask to show them I care. So I figured hey, if they ignore me like this, then I have every right in the world to ignore them right? I just wish it didn't make me feel like a loser who only cares about school all the time.

Sorry for the venting but thanks for those who read it!

[LifeGetsBetter]

My anxiety makes me ignore people. I am more comfortable when people just leave me alone.

If your friends are doing stuff you don't want to do and don't approve of, maybe you need to get new friends.

[janieB]

It doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you its what you think that matters. Collage wont last forever and how silly are your cousins going to look when in a few years time your the one with the top job and earning a top wage, and as for bestfriends boyfriends and girlfriends it will come right for you your only 20 years old give yourself a break and be true to yourself. I hope this helps alittle.

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[lovejoy91]

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

I'm so fed up right now so this might be long (I have GAD). I'm 19 and all my life I've been the person who puts family and school before anything. From a young age I cared about school very much. I would always stay home on weekends to study for hours and hours and would aim to get the highest grades. I graded high school with a 90 average and got into a a top university but something happened and I had to leave and now I'm in college. I got a scholarship and I'm going into my second year this fall. But I've realized that because of this I'm ignored. Not by everyone, I mean I have like 8 friends who are amazing and they respect my priorities but mostly by my family members (i.e cousins). I have cousins that range from 18 up to 24 (they all have bf's, and gf,s and I've never had one) and they LOVE to party, get drunk, smoke, and go out 24/7 not caring about school. I dont drink, go out, smoke, or party and I'm turning 20 soon (go ahead, laugh). I know I shouldnt care but they go out together all the time, to cottages, outings, parties... I know I said I don't party or anything but I figure it would be nice to at least ask right? I mean if I knew someone who didn't like to do something I did, I would still ask to show them I care. So I figured hey, if they ignore me like this, then I have every right in the world to ignore them right? I just wish it didn't make me feel like a loser who only cares about school all the time.

Sorry for the venting but thanks for those who read it!

Have you thought about asking if you can join? Are you old enough to go to certain events (clubs, bars, etc)? It doesn't hurt to initiate going out so that your cousins know you are interested.

[mazing]

Have you asked them if you can come if you are interested in going? Maybe they aren't realising that you want to go if it's not normally something you are intersted in doing.

I definitely know where you are coming from though - it sounds a lot like me. I spent most of my teen years studying and then most of my early 20's focusing on school while it seemed everyone else around me partied (and I had absolutely no interest in drinking / smoking etc.).

It can be difficult and I must admit I found it hard for a while but in time I found a close group of friends though that had similar goals to me and had more maturity. You are definitely not a loser And I promise in time you will find a lot of people who are also ambitious and care about other things than partying and drinking.

I was a bit of a party animal. I wish I had your smarts and cared more about school.

With that said, it sounds like your feelings are hurt because you're not invited. I'm sorry this is the case. It doesn't seem like you'd have a good time with these people anyways. You're better off finding people you have something in common with.

You sound like a young person with lots of wonderful things to look forward to in the future.