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Old Aug 24, 2015, 01:53 AM
Zykra Zykra is offline
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These past few years I've noticed that I'm NOT AT ALL a touchy person.
I won't go as far as saying "I hate being touched" but I just "don't like" being touched,A LOT.
Not being touchy kinda runs in my family.
Ever since I was a baby I'm 80% sure my mum has never kissed my on the cheek.She pretty much has never kissed me or hugged me.The only kinda of touching she really did was hold my hand when I was a kid and that was only when she would take me out the house.oh and she's never told me she loved me.
(If your thinking that these are just little issues that don't matter then clearly you don't know that the amount of affection you get when your younger can affect you when your older.And it has for me!)
I have a aunt that I really loved when I was younger(haven't seen her for over 7 years because my mum doesn't like her family)and I remember all my love going to that one aunt.I kissed and hugged her a lot,she was more of a mum to me then my actual mum.All the love that should've went to my mum went to my aunt.
Me and my sibling don't really touch each other but I think they're probably more touchy then me.Every time a friend comes in to hug me I don't even move my arms because I don't know what to do,I panic and then the reply I get most of the time is "what...? aren't you going to hug me?".I just reply with "I just don't really hug"
Lately I've been thinking of something else to say because my reply always sounds too rejecting.
As for personal space if your closer than roughly 1 meter I'll move back straight away or won't look at your face at all and will barely talk.
When it comes to someone even slightly touching my shoulder I'll move away.
Surely I'm not the only one on this forum who feels this way, it would be nice to know if someone could relate.
(really wanted to write more but it's nearly 8am and I'm not asleep so I'll leave it at that.)
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Old Aug 24, 2015, 02:26 AM
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You are definitely not the only one on this forum who feels this way; I've had a variety of reactions to what I think of as people invading my personal space. With people who don't know it takes me a long time to tell them, if ever. Mine developed from being touched too much when young. Myself, i think it is a perfectly natural reaction. I need to find a way to tell people without offending them; I keep avoiding the subject in my own mind though.
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Old Aug 24, 2015, 03:46 AM
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Same thing with me, actually! I was just talking to my mom saying how much I dont like people invading my space, or I freak out.

When I visited my close family in another state(my grandmas and aunt/uncles) they all tried to give me a hug and I literally almost had a panic attack. I felt really bad
The only one I can tolerate hugging me is my mom..anyone else is a big no no lol
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Old Aug 24, 2015, 05:53 AM
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Get this-i married into a Greek family and boy they really really love to kiss and hug. when i was growing up in my family when i was young we never touched and if we did it was like getting Cooties or something like that. i just got used to it and even started the hug thing with my own close relatives now too. i guess they just caught on.
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