[AnxietyMaster]

I am freaking out. We were talking about allergy medicine and she said her dead mentally ill brothers name rather than mine. I am thinking of going off of mess because of this. What does it mean????

[spring2014]

a bad memory for your mom ?

Can you ask her? It could be so many things. Is it near the anniversary of his death or near his birthday or the anniversary of some other time that is making her think about him? If it is, he may be on her mind at the moment.

Since you said you're thinking about going off meds because of what she said, I'm guessing that you think she is comparing the two of you. I hope that you'll ask her instead of assuming that.

[AnxietyMaster]

Originally Posted by spring2014

a bad memory for your mom ?

Very bad. He was schizoaffective bipolar, and had a horrible experience. 7/8 of his psychiatrists committed suicide. He saw only 2 psychologists. Meds made him diabetic and have td. He never had a job and was dependent on her mom for years.

[AnxietyMaster]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

Can you ask her? It could be so many things. Is it near the anniversary of his death or near his birthday or the anniversary of some other time that is making her think about him? If it is, he may be on her mind at the moment.

Since you said you're thinking about going off meds because of what she said, I'm guessing that you think she is comparing the two of you. I hope that you'll ask her instead of assuming that.

His birthday was about a month and a half ago. I do think that she is comparing us. I think that she thinks that I am going to end up like him.

The thing that makes me think this is that it was right after I asked her about me getting a referral to a different psychiatrist

I am a little scared go ask as it is a sour subject and usually ends in crying and/or anger...

After I wrote that before, I thought that I should not have urged you to ask her. You of course know her better than I do.

Even if your mom is comparing the two of you, that doesn't mean it's a rational comparison. You'd know better than I would, whether your mom is extremely rational or if she tends to be an emotional thinker.

That doesn't mean it wouldn't be distressing to be compared to someone with such severe mental illness. I have an older relative (mom's sibling) who has fairly severe mental illness. I would not want to be compared to them, even though I would know it wasn't a valid comparison.

You come across on this forum as being emotionally healthy and very mature for your age.

[AnxietyMaster]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

After I wrote that before, I thought that I should not have urged you to ask her. You of course know her better than I do.

Even if your mom is comparing the two of you, that doesn't mean it's a rational comparison. You'd know better than I would, whether your mom is extremely rational or if she tends to be an emotional thinker.

That doesn't mean it wouldn't be distressing to be compared to someone with such severe mental illness. I have an older relative (mom's sibling) who has fairly severe mental illness. I would not want to be compared to them, even though I would know it wasn't a valid comparison.

You come across on this forum as being emotionally healthy and very mature for your age.

Honestly, I am not sure if I really do know better than you if my mother is a rational or emotional thinker. She is a scientist, and works in said field. Although, she has mood swings that are very random. She can be very rational, and pleasant to talk to, then wake up the next day and be at everyone throats for breathing too loudly.

I do know that this is not a valid comparison, but I do, as stated, find it distressing. I think what makes her think this, is because I am taking multiple medications for one. Also, I think that she believes that only in cases of severe mental illness is one to seek help from a psychiatrist/psychologist.

Emotionally healthy? I would agree with this, as I do not have any significant emotional stressors in my life at the moment.

Mature? I try my hardest to overcome the stereotypes of my age, and not fit into one box. Many do not think that children/teens are capable of everything that adults are, and this is not true. We are fully capable, just limited by society. Excuse me, went off on a tangent...

Thank you very much!

[spring2014]

oh jeez anxiety master I feel bad for you!!!! keep your chin up and think positive !!!

[francisR]

hi AnxietyMaste

It could be that your mom just made a mistake with names there might be nothing more to it than that. You could mention it to her to see what she says. Take care. I hope and pray you have a really great day. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Don't worry my mother calls me either of her two brothers, or her two younger sisters, or even by my nephew's name.

[Ocean5]

AnxietyMaster - You are here on this forum. That's shows your level of maturity and insight. Greater than many adults. And I grew up having to be an adult as a youth.

Maybe your mom is just getting older, and a slip of her mind? It happens.

It may also just be her internal fear for you. When you have relatives (I do) with schizoaffective or bipolar it can be serious worry factor. I know I asked my p-doc about it. But told it's PTSD, Anxiety Disorder and Panic Attacks. I totally understand you being worried.

Stay strong!

[CosmicRose]

My parents call me my sisters names by accident all the time. I think that's what happened.

[AnxietyMaster]

Thank you everyone. I still do think in a way she was comparing us, but it isn't bothering me as much. I am not going to bring it up because, as stated earlier, this is a sore topic.

I do imagine that this was just a mistake, that happened to slip out.

Thank you again