[sensatives]

Do you have communication issues when even not anxious?

Personally, I genuinely do not know how to communicate with another person. I've always been this way. Half the time I feel like I have to recite and/or memorize what I have to say to the person before I say it. I don't know how to react to things, so I tend to repeat the same facial expressions or phrases over and over again, wishing for the conversation to end.

Even when I'm excited or happy, I don't know how to react that way outwardly like the average human being would, so I tend to copy how everyone else is reacting. Sometimes my friends would show me something they considered exciting or cool, and I'd just follow the way my friend reacted just to please them. Because I don't know how to communicate with people.

Is this normal with social anxiety? Sometimes I feel like my inability to communicate triggers my anxiety, and it isn't my anxiety that makes it hard for me to communicate.

yes yes yes!.

even sometimes on websites (which is weird because i'm not face to face with that person)

deffenetly a grey area for me

[sensatives]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

yes yes yes!.

even sometimes on websites (which is weird because i'm not face to face with that person)

deffenetly a grey area for me

YES! I have troubles talking to people online too, even when anonymous sometimes. It's bad though, it's made me lose a lot of friends and I've pissed off many of my lecturers because of it. My therapist diagnosed me with Avoidant Personality Disorder instead of social anxiety after I told her all of this, but there isn't much write up on AvPD on the internet.

[i dont matter]

Yes. . . .

Originally Posted by sensatives

YES! I have troubles talking to people online too, even when anonymous sometimes. It's bad though, it's made me lose a lot of friends and I've pissed off many of my lecturers because of it. My therapist diagnosed me with Avoidant Personality Disorder instead of social anxiety after I told her all of this, but there isn't much write up on AvPD on the internet.

regarding the online thing, you've got to admit that it's a strange thing.

i mean, if you talk to someone you know- they could then spread it around, turn against you, etc etc. really ruin your life.

talking to people online does not always carry that ris, especially if that person has no idea who you are, and likewise

so why on earth do we get anxious when it comes to talking to people we don't know about a problem,, knowing that the person in question can't judge us as harshly as say a friend or family member

it's strange

anyway i'm glad you post here.. keep reaching out to us

[cottonwood]

this all hits the nail on the head, for me.

I could have written it myself because it so exactly describes me.

A very eery feeling, to read it here, and see myself here, since nobody else in the whole world ever uttered such words, to have me identity with words so exactly

[cottonwood]

I used to be much worse at this however. It was like I was a parrot. It was like I was a twin, the frail confused twin that let a stronger twin speak for her, although my sister was not my twin but was a year older than me, like I was her shadow. What made me start "owning" myself was getting away from Robin when she and her friends rejected me. Painful, but I guess the best thing that ever happened, giving birth to "me."

[Nike007]

I have a lot of communication issues even when I am not anxious. I think it's part of my social anxiety, but it might be part of the ASD that isn't diagnosed yet or both.

Communication is hard online too, because I don't know if I am saying the right thing and stuff.

Oh my gosh, the friends thing is so accurate for me. If they find something funny and I don't i pretend to laugh. If they are talking about something I have no idea what they are talking about, I act like I know what I am talking about.

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[LifeGetsBetter]

You are not alone. This is me too.

[sensatives]

Originally Posted by Nike007

I have a lot of communication issues even when I am not anxious. I think it's part of my social anxiety, but it might be part of the ASD that isn't diagnosed yet or both.

Communication is hard online too, because I don't know if I am saying the right thing and stuff.

Oh my gosh, the friends thing is so accurate for me. If they find something funny and I don't i pretend to laugh. If they are talking about something I have no idea what they are talking about, I act like I know what I am talking about.

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Totally. It makes friendships and communication seem like chores. I would much rather remain quiet throughout the day instead of forcing myself to copy what everyone else is doing.