[Himynameis123101101]

I don't know if this is the correct forum for this but I have anxiety and I keep looking into my past to actually actively search for things to worry about as presently everything on paper in my life is going good. Every time I speak to someone and they say don't worry it's absolutely fine and normal you are just catastrophising. So the most recent incident is when I was maybe 12/13 and I had to remove my pubic hair (as it is cumplosary in our religon) and my mum put hair removal cream on me to remove the hair as I didn't know how to do it. At the time I literally thought nothing of it because it's not like it was sexual because it was hair removal and it was my mum and I think in her family they are pretty open. But is this normal? I think it only happened once or twice and then I did it myself. At that age I think I was a lot less mature than most people my age so maybe it seemed normal for my mum to help me with grown stuff. And I don't think it even crossed her mind it was bad or sexual cos it's just what u have to do and she was just helping.

[Dern]

The best way to overcome cognitive distortions is to seek treatment. When depression is moderate to severe, it seizes your ability to think and reason clearly, Serani said. “This is what makes depression one of the most lethal of mental disorders.”

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Cognitive Distortions: The Lies Depression Tells | Psych Central
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[bugbear83]

"Normal" is such a weird word. What's normal for one person in one place is strange for another halfway across the world. Or even across the street! It sounds like you're worried about your mom having done something inappropriate to you in your preteen years, and maybe battling with the idea that you should feel guilty or ashamed about it. Does that sound right? Just from what you tell me, I don't think she did anything wrong. I come from a background where that kind of thing would be abnormal, but hair removal also isn't part of my religion or my family's personal concerns. (My best friend actually had to teach me to shave my legs, since my mom never even brought it up with me lol!)

Instead of worrying about whether you SHOULD be worried or whether it was "normal", try to focus on how you feel about the incident now. Does it make you feel uncomfortable? If so, embrace that. Work through it. Maybe even bring it up with her, if possible, and let her know that it makes you feel weird to think about it.

If it doesn't make you feel bad to think about, then let it go~ Release the thought into the void of the past and focus on making better memories with your family in the present and future.