[Hopeful777]

Hi all, I was hoping to get some advice or comforting words. I am sure I am not the only one here who struggles with this as mental health issues often run in families. I suffer from anxiety and depression myself and my father is diagnosed as having bipolar disorder and anxiety. Unfortunately we have both took a turn for the worse lately. My anxiety has been pretty bad lately, but I had been moving forward and making progress.
Unfortunately, this morning I received information from a friend of my father's that he is not doing well. I live about 4 hours from my dad and do not see him often. My sister lives closer and sees him weekly. I have been in communication with her and saw my dad about 2 weeks ago and we both thought he had been doing much better. Today, my father's friend stated that he seems very sedated: slow to respond, sometimes doesn't respond, falling asleep constantly, and very forgetful. She said a lot that made me concerned. My dad was in the hospital for about 3 weeks a year ago, and getting him into the hospital was a nightmare. He is a very proud person and does not admit when he is not doing well. We had to have the police take him in. It also seems like my dad is able to act fine when he needs to. We had to have the cops out 2x last year because they thought he was fine initially. I feel like sometimes his dr doesn't realize how bad of shape he is in either.
I am not sure what to do. I just feel like either the dr hasn't got his meds right or my dad isn't taking them correctly. I feel like he shouldn't be living alone, but he would freak if we suggested a caretaker or assisted living.
It's hard having to deal with this when I am struggling so much myself 😔

[Miktis25]

I have no advice or help for you I'm afraid, but just wanted to wish you the best and many cyber hugs. It's not a good position to be in

I want you to remember that at the end of the day no one is responsible for the actions of another.

You all are providing some great support. I think though you need to ask your dad what it is that he wants, specifically what does he think his present and future living arrangement look like. You never know, he may be quite astute in this respect.