[Rizvi]

Hey respected members,
I need your suggestions please!. Its me Rizvi and i am currently a student in a university somewhere in the third world. I am facing a serious physiological problem and want your help.
Whenever i try to speak in a gathering i become a bundle of nerves. My face becomes red and start sweating. My body starts shaking and breath becomes short. My voice becomes like wailing and i forget all things in my mind. Not only in gatherings, i also become nervous while an interview, speaking someone, facing specially females, during presentation in class etc.
I also know the reason behind this. My rustic parents use to be very strict with me since my childhood. I grow up in a totally segregated environment with very little communication with the society. The fear of parents is still in my heart.
Secondly when i was in early teen, our financial status deteriorated. I had to go to school wearing someone else cloths. Since then modesty kindled within me.
I tried to face this problems by practicing more and more, but i don't fee any substantial change. I use to participate in conversation class by delivering presentation regularly.

Now i am diffident, modest and inhibited person. I am unable to express myself. I want to come out of this fear and want to ease myself.
I look forward for your scholarly suggestions.
Thank you.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Perhaps if you consider what you think might happen you will realise your fears are unreasonable?

[thankful2424]

I can see where you are coming from with the fear of speaking and being in front of others in a public setting. I think that with practice and time this all becomes a lot easier even though it seems really difficult now. I used to be a nervous wreak, and still am sometimes, when speaking in front of people. I would sweat and stumble on my words because I was so nervous. I think that this stemmed of how I thought that others saw me. I felt like they were judging me. I tried to do my best in every presentation and situation I was in. I really just think that telling yourself that you know what you are doing/saying. CONFIDENCE IS KEY! Good luck with everything and keep trying even though its hard! Eventually you will feel so much better about yourself!