[xRavenx]

Hi everyone,

Anyone else here have a really hard committing to certain things because of your anxiety, but you feel extra pressure from others out of fear that you are going to disappoint them? I feel this way a lot, especially when it comes to events such as weddings that involve a lot and whenever I'm invited to something. I have a very hard time saying "no" when others make a request of me. I was invited to go out of the country for an engagement party and was invited by my significant other, who I only got back together with recently. We've been split up for 2.5 years and only been back together for about 1 month and see each other 1-2 times during the week.

At first, it sounded like a good idea in theory (the traveling aspect of seeing something new), but we will be with his family, and I am not ready for such a big commitment. Not only do I feel like I'm just "warming up" to him again, but this is a situation I would feel anxious about no matter what since it involves so much, including taking off from work. It won't be a relaxing trip from all it entails. I get nervous traveling with people who are not my family, and I would have to stay with all of them. I have to tell him, but I'm afraid of him becoming angry or upset with me. In general, I'm a people pleaser, and this brings on anxiety. I really envy people who can say no without guilt or regret. Sometimes I just give people excuses and long explanations because of my fear, but I'm trying to work on not feeling the need to over-explain myself when declining things that are such big commitments. The anxiety has such a grip on me though that I don't feel capable.

I know exactly how you feel...I could have written your post.
I am forcing myself to take baby steps after having been depressed for weeks.
Tonight while my son was at his Dad's I went to the store and bought a special shampoo for myself and then took a walk in the park but I had to call my boyfriend because I actually got afraid to walk alone.My anxiety I can keep hidden at work,etc but not from myself
Take things one day at a time and good luck..I will look for your posts.

[xRavenx]

Originally Posted by fuschiafever

I know exactly how you feel...I could have written your post.
I am forcing myself to take baby steps after having been depressed for weeks.
Tonight while my son was at his Dad's I went to the store and bought a special shampoo for myself and then took a walk in the park but I had to call my boyfriend because I actually got afraid to walk alone.My anxiety I can keep hidden at work,etc but not from myself
Take things one day at a time and good luck..I will look for your posts.

Thank you so much, fuschiafever. ((HUGS)) I'm sorry that you are going through a hard time as well and can definitely relate. Lately (and with meds), I can also keep my anxiety to myself at work too, but I feel I mask a lot of my feelings. It's so true, we have to take it one day at a time. I just started therapy again, and it is helpful. I look forward to your posts as well and along the way if I learn anything that could be particularly helpful in therapy, I'll pass it on in hopes that it will help you and others here.

[handheart]

Well i see you are a too god man and people profit on you and this its not good trust me because it will make your anxiety worse.People are bad in these days and if they see you weak they will profit from you so stop beying a pleaser man ,and also its normal to feel this way with anxiety as it a desease that want you to feel bad and not take some important decizions