[brokenandalone1234]

I didn't know where to post this because there really isn't a forum for this. Last night one of me and my fiance's cats passed away.I feel like because of my poor house keeping he may of gotten into something and now I can't sleep. My fiance is asleep in bed right now and the guilt and anxiety is eating away at me. Our other cat who was littermates with the one who passed away was looking for him today and it broke my heart. We don't know why he died so I have been worried if it is something in the house will we lose the other cat. I see the other cat laying down and for some reason I freak out right away. I don't know what to do. I can't get the guilt to go away. I have been thinking about it all day. It caused me and my fiance to fight last night. I feel so bad.

Sorry about this experience. Do you always have trouble sleeping or is it just this particular event?

I will get up and walk around, grab a drink of milk. I avoid turning on anything electronic including my phone. Sometimes I will write about what is causing the anxiety. By that time I've tired myself out.

If this is a common occurance, the best thing you can do is maintain a routine. Same time to bed each night and avoid your phone, tv, etc for minimum an hour before bed. If you've a TV in the bedroom try to remove it.

[*Laurie*]

I am so, so sorry.

[AHeartOfRuby]

It isn't your fault we all struggle with house keeping pets make it harder, you did give him/her a wonderful home till the end and I'm proud, nobody is blaming you.. it could've been anything and I hope you find out soon to put your anxieties at bay ❤️

[brokenandalone1234]

I normally sleep fairly well. I used to have trouble sleeping. This event has just made it worse. I can't help but feel guilty. The hardest part is watching our living cat looking for the one who passed away. It breaks my heart and makes the anxiety and guilt worse.

[HerDistantEmoEyes]

I never sleep well at all cause of anxiety. And tonight is especially horrible because I went out in public today. If I were you I would talk to your fiance about this because I'm sure he won't hold anything against you. You need the comfort. Not sleeping caused by anxiety is the worst feeling ever

[winter4me]

It isn't your fault...I remember my cat looking for her brother when he died, it is sad, but it is normal, a grieving, ---pay attention to the cat who is alive, as you would any survivor of loss.....we all go through losses...
I tend to feel guilty about things that happen even if there really is no way it could be my fault...it is something you can learn to see, and let go...
((((((((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))))))))

[brokenandalone1234]

I have been paying a lot of attention to the cat who is alive still. I pet him a lot. I don't want him to grieve alone. It is just hard to watch. This is the first time in 8 years that they have been apart and knowing that they won't be together ever again makes it worse.

[HerDistantEmoEyes]

[DechanDawa]

I am sorry for your loss. You anxiety seems normal. However, I don't understand what you mean about your cat getting into something because of your poor housekeeping. Do you mean ingesting something toxic? Have you corrected whatever you think was not organized? The litter mate will probably feel the loss but animals adapt quickly. It is a survival instinct. Go easy on yourself. When my dog died I felt intense guilt about maybe having done something wrong even though others said it was a false assumption. Looking back, I was just a bit more neurotic about the whole thing than a normal person would be. Go easy on yourself.

[Deejay14]

It's never easy to loose a pet. I have had pets who died of old age and felt anxious and guilty that I didn't do something right. I think k that's pretty normal (hugs) to you. I am sorry for your loss.

[brokenandalone1234]

It makes it makes it harder not knowing what killed the other cat because I now worry about losing the living cat too. Also when my fiance first found our dead cat he blamed me for his death so now I can't help but blame myself. I know in the moment my fiance was just shocked from finding the cat dead and didn't know how to handle it so he spoke out of pain and hurt but I still blame myself.

Keeping up the house is a never ending thing.I have an autistic child so I have my hands full and many times my place is not the way I would like it to be.
Sorry for the loss of your pet.

I find doing something I like helps me relax...I know they say no electronics but I relax when I type..weird huh? Thanks for sharing...

[Yoda]

I am sorry your cat died. I am glad you gave your cat eight years of love.

It is hard to say why your cat died. I had a three year old cat that had a seizure at 2am and I called the emergency vet hospital and was going to take him there but then he started walking and acting normally again so we decided to take him to his regular vet in the morning. Sadly he was dead in the morning. If we had not seen him having the seizure we would have always wondered what happened.

Grieve as you need to and if you want to talk you have support here.

[Unrigged64072835]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your cat.