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Old Nov 25, 2016, 02:15 PM
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I just spent an hour visiting someone and I'm exhausted. It was so hard. I didn't mean that she's not nice. It was having to talk and listen. It's just being with a person. I think I should get a cat.

I can't see how forcing myself to talk to someone is helpful. It's just draining. I feel like I need a week alone now to recover.
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Old Nov 26, 2016, 01:29 PM
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Hello jean17: Thanks for sharing this. The Skeezyks is pretty-much entirely solitary. So having to hold a conversation with anyone is a major event. I suppose if I made myself do it more, perhaps I'd get used to it again... (I used to be better at it many years ago.) But, at this point in my life, I just prefer not to.
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Old Nov 26, 2016, 01:41 PM
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Get the cat!
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Old Nov 26, 2016, 01:46 PM
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I don't communicate effectively with people either. It's very difficult for me to do it. Do your best. Take time to recharge. That's why we are introverted.
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Old Nov 26, 2016, 03:48 PM
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When I am depressed it takes enormous energy for me to deal with people. Meeting new people when it is incumbent upon me to make a good impression is particularly exhausting. I had to leave the house(!) and be articulate and positive and intelligent (pertinent: my formal schooling was in artificial intelligence) at thanksgiving with three friends-of-a-friend whom I had never met and felt I had to impress, and, although I suspect that I was largely successful in my deception, the interaction was so tiring and stressful for me that two days later I want to pop benzodiazepines from the mere memory of it. That's post-conversation anxiety, which sounds like a new low.
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Old Nov 28, 2016, 06:41 AM
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Hello jean17: Thanks for sharing this. The Skeezyks is pretty-much entirely solitary. So having to hold a conversation with anyone is a major event. I suppose if I made myself do it more, perhaps I'd get used to it again... (I used to be better at it many years ago.) But, at this point in my life, I just prefer not to.
That's exactly how I feel. I'm 60 years old and no matter what I try I just can't get beyond Anxiety and Introversion. I think I'll just stay alone and be content.
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Old Nov 28, 2016, 06:44 AM
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Get the cat!
Do you have a cat? I think about getting one a lot. There are lots around here who need a home. Are yours outdoor or indoor cats?

I think it would be easier to be friends with a cat.
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Old Nov 28, 2016, 03:38 PM
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Talking in person or on the phone drains me too. I always leave on a bad note especially with my family.

I live alone and my pets are a great help. So I agree with the cat. When I'm lonely I just call my cat up to snuggle and it calms me down.
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