Anxiety - Support Needed with Issue

Hi

I found this forum when I was googling some issues for support. The replies to the post I found were very supportive and helpful, I thought I would post here for some advice myself. I am a regular user of other general forums but I'm new here.

I have suffered from anxiety for as long as I can remember (I'm 49 now), this was exacerbated by several serious RTAs that involved close family members (no major injuries thankfully but serious accidents if that makes sense). I did seek support through my GP at that time but the talking support didn't really help much.

Fast forward 8 or so years and I still suffer from anxiety symptoms, regularly but not too much that I need to consult my GP.

Last week though my partner was suspended from work and this has led to my anxiety symptoms spiralling, I feel very emotional and trembling (most of the time). To ease my anxiety, I have tried googling similar cases of suspension so I know the likely outcome for my partner of any disciplinary procedures. It has also led me to try and think of everything I can to get it on paper for my partner to take to the investigation meeting next week. My husband is not the most confident of people (suffered from depression in the past) and I want to try and help him as much as I can, however my anxiety is spilling over to him, he appears calm about the situation but I don't know whether that's in an attempt to calm me down. I can't stop thinking of the situation he is in, he's a great bloke who will do anything for anybody but doesn't see eye to eye with his Manager (who's not supportive at all, he's not seen him once this year).

I'd really appreciate your support in how to deal with the situation myself and how to support my partner, given the anxiety I'm suffering.

Thank you so much.

TC x

Hello TC121: I'm sorry you & your partner are experiencing this difficulty. Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support to you during this difficult time. Sometimes simply writing about one's concerns can be of help. And PC can be a great place to do that.

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Does sound very stressful. It's tough when counting/relying on another person for financial support and suddenly that is at risk because of circumstances beyond your own control. Dreadful and frightful come to mind. So to me, not only the stress of income loss, but frustration and perhaps some other deep down feelings? Such as anger and disappointment overshadowed with wanting to be supportive of your spouse?

Fingers crossed that things work out.

I would guess his calmness comes from already knowing the best he can do in dealing with his situation. Your anxiety is quite understandable, of course, but can you truly make a difference in his situation's outcome? Either way, however, keep sharing and be sure to let us know how things turn out.

I would suggest seeing a psychiatrist for your anxiety, not a GP. You need someone specialized to better treat you. For now it seems like this is situational and will pass. Just think "this too shall pass" and breathe deep. Find some ways to relax.