[jenjen1044]

I have a son who just turned 18. for the last 3 years he has lost friends and deals with anxiety. He left school in 10th grade homeschooled and is now in college 1st semester. He has now not done very well and wants to quit. It seems he starts and stops everything. I know he is lonely. I am not sure if he is so scared or what to interact with people face to face. I think this all started at school with some kids making fun him. I don't want to not push him but them I am scared to push him and he needs time.
He take Zoloft and was in therapy. The therapist moved away so he doesn't go. My sone says it more depression than anxiety!! Any suggestions!

[handheart]

In my opinion i think you should find a way to find a good therapist that its closer to your son .Because i was also in this situation and the therapist helped me alot

[jenjen1044]

Thank you! I am looking for one. I think it will be helpful.

[Lauliza]

If your son is has social anxiety I can see how he may have since become very depressed. I think a CBT therapist who is well informed on social phobia may be helpful. Your son may or may not like t at first but a t like this would target he anxiety and try to help him move outside his comfort zone. A t who really understands social anxiety will be able to empathize with how torturous it is for some people and how slow the process can be. Good luck!

[winter4me]

He needs your support, a good T. will help a lot, he also needs to know that you believe he will make it, has what it takes, and is basically a strong enough person---don't let him shrink from the world for too long....encourage involvement---the longer one stays away from challenges, the harder it is to get back out there.

[jenjen1044]

Thank yall!! I am going to get him in with a good therapist!! I encourage him all the time!! I love him and will do whatever I can forsure!!

[jenjen1044]

Originally Posted by handheart

In my opinion i think you should find a way to find a good therapist that its closer to your son .Because i was also in this situation and the therapist helped me alot

I see a link to the Sean Cooper system. Have you tried it? and what is your take on it. I thought about it for my son

[jenjen1044]

Quick question I need some insight. My son decided not to go back to College after his 1st semester. The school band director called today to check on why he has not come back. They had him doing their videop editing and video. They said they needed him bad! I told him how My son was dealing with depression and anxiety and he said he would never had guessed it! That he laughed and cut up with him and other students!!! I am so confussed bad. Do I make him go back he would be upset for sure. He said he was stressed at school. I worry I am making huge mistakes!! Any ADVICE!!!!

[*Laurie*]

Please get your son into therapy. In addition, I believe he should be assessed by a psychiatrist for possible medication. If he had a broken leg you wouldn't 'make him' walk on it. Please don't wait anymore...your son needs help for his anxiety and depression.

[jenjen1044]

We have a apt tomm with a new therapist and he does take Zoloft that was recently increased. I am just worried about him missing these opportunities.

[*Laurie*]

That's great! As for missing opportunities, well, he's only 18.

What did you do when your son was bullied at school? Is it OK for him to go out with you, maybe to have a dinner or watch a movie? Let him order and talk to people while you are there. I hope therapy will help. Your son has low self-esteem. Encourage him by mentioning all the positive things being in college, like meeting new people, going trips, have activies, talking to girls ... etc. Good luck

[ken9018]

I think a new therapist would help a lot. Good luck and take care!