[bipolarcritic]

So, my wife and I got into a huge fight about three months ago and our marriage was at risk. Long story short, she caught me having a conversation with another woman that she did not appreciate. I did not have an affair of any kind but my texts were over the line and I hid them from her. We are working it out but ever since her anxiety has spiked.

When we first got together six years ago she had severe anxiety and was taking a relatively large dose of clonazepam daily. She hated the way the drug made her feel and slept all the time. Over a period of about 18 months and under close doctor supervison she was able to ween herself completely off. She has not had any sort of major anxiety issues for years. This all stopped after our fight. She started having panic attack like symptoms, though they did not go into full blown attacks. She started finally feeling better about two weeks after our fight, but now about six weeks ago she started feeling extreme anixiety all day. 5-7 mornings she is waking up and vomiting first thing in the morning. She has lost her appetite and has lost about 10-15 pounds just in the last 6 weeks.

I am extremely concerned about her. She can't get into a new psych until March and she is not happy with our General doctor and refuses to go to him. I am very concerned. Any advice? It is freaking me out that she wakes up and pukes every other day and the weight loss is what worries me the most.

Well firstly if your texts were over the line it was an affair. Infidenlty is not confined to an intimately physical event. I would be sick with anxiety too - and I have been.

What I needed was a simple acknowledgement that his actions were a gros infidenlity and validation that my feelings were normal and justified. She needs a demonstration on your part that you hurt yourself too by your actions.

I don't think there is much else you can do to erase the pain and stem the worry.

Do you and she do things together? Do you schedule quality time together. Do both of you stick to and commit yourself to that schedule?

[Trippin2.0]

You absolutely sure she's not pregnant?

Your wife needs to go to therapy.

Meds don't fix anything, they are a band-aid at best.

Until she learns coping skills to handle her anxiety, this will be her life.

[bipolarcritic]

I'm sure she isn't pregnant. Any tips on what she can do between now and seeing a therapist. Everyone around here has a damn waiting list

[Trippin2.0]

Ginger is very good for nauseating anxiety. I've had to keep a stash of ginger ale / ginger tea at one point.

[Yoda]

Here are some helpful tips:

5 Remedies To Treat Nausea And Vomiting At Home | DIY Health Remedy

[*Laurie*]

It sounds to me like your wife needs to see a doctor ASAP. Don't hesitate to take her to the ER. Medication could help, for sure. And going to the ER might expedite a psych appointment to February rather than March. If she tells the doctors she's throwing up, believe me, they will pay close attention.