Anyone else dislike hugs?

I would not say its a fear but I am so uncomfortable with hugs, I just stand like a board and wait for it to end and I never give them to anyone.

That being said, I wish I could change this, what I don't get is, I REALLY WISH I was able to give them and happily accept them. I want to feel that closeness with someone but it freaks me out so much.

Just wondering if I am alone in this weird issue or....?

That would be me. It took a while, but there are some people I can handle it with... tho some days, I still just cannot handle being touched at all.

It depends on how I'm doing that day and who it is. I understand how you feel. Best wishes.

Well I wanna work on this in therapy but not sure if its gonna help. He is working on other phobias with me and wrote this on the list lol... although its not a phobia but my fear of getting close to anyone sure is

Its weird though because somedays I really have the urge to hug him or some others, I just can't bring myself to do it. Sigh...

It's not that I don't dislike hugs,I just can't tolerate them very well at all.I worked on it in therapy,but still have a hard time with them.

I have no problem giving kids hugs or allowing them to hug me,but when it's adults,it's just too uncomfortable and awkward and just feels wrong.

I am the same, I cringe when someone tries to hug me. I am okay giving hugs out on here though but in person I don't like them.

I can hug my husband and that's the only time I don't feel awkward. I have a hard time even with my daughter.

good to know there is other's out there

i do hope though someday i am able to be ok with hugs. i want to be

I hate them SO much.

And my fiance's family insists on giving them ALL THE TIME. It's so frustrating. They often point out that I give "bad" hugs. Yeah. That's because I don't want them to hug me.

I just worry about my child. I want to teach her body autonomy... but I feel his family will make it hard. My family was always "Only hug if the person wants the hug". Theirs is... more... traditional southern "Hug them even if they shove away!" and I hate that. I want them to learn that they can only hug me and my child if we want to. I worry that if my child is more like me, they'll force hugs on her when I'm not around.

That'd be me! They don't bother me if it's my son or if it's a guy I'm in a relationship with. But they really make me feel awkward if it's anyone else.

Yes I am a non hugger and only recently started to allow it. There are so many people I wish I had the guts to hug but my inability stops me from doing so. I freak out, get all nervous and embarrassed and then feel like a right numpty cause I must look like a total gimp. I can't even hug my family without feeling anxious. Its really frustrating. I so want to hug people I just have this phobia/fear????? What ever you want to call it I am dealing with it through working with my Psychologist but it's not going so well as I can't seem to just do it

this is exactly me, the fear... more or less that i will be rejected if i try to initiate and unsure why for allowing them but today i am feeling so broken, i almost feel like allowing hugs

I had a Support Worker who was very huggy and I knew this. But every time I was emotional I couldn't let her hug me. Its like you don't want to let people in. I hugged 2 people yesterday :-) :-) well they hugged me one was a friendly I haven't seen you in ages hug and the other was a caring hug. The huggers were both professionals I see and it was nice to get the hugs unexpectedly even though it threw me lol!

I used to HATE being touched in anyway, even a tap. The stimuli would trigger me but I got better with touch but still felt so awkward with hugs. BUT, one day... my mom and I were eating out and we saw someone who hadn't seen for AGES. My mom's old best friend that used to be at every birthday party, outting etc. and I had missed her badly and was worried about her because we heard about her bad health. Then at that moment I wanted to hug her so bad that I gave my first real hug. My mom even commented like, whoa you don't hug me like that (lol) So after learning that feeling I use it for my Mom and Sister, the two I love the most, and I squeeze them without caring what they think xD

with me, if someone asks first, can I hug you, then I know i'm in control.. I can say yes or no

however, if someone just hugs me without asking, it feels like an invasion of personal space

so my T knows I have this issue and right now i am going through this awful thing about my dog having bone cancer, so my last session was tough to say the least. i wasn't really "there" mentally all the way so i didn't think to ask him further about his comment but he was talking about hugs and said something like "well i would not make you do that here and make you uncomfortable" so in other words, i think he was saying he would hug me if i wasn't weirded out by it, so i felt kinda bad... because in that awful moment, i think i might of been ok with it.

i think i am a lot like "shattered" above and i like to be asked.. and i realized that all the people i can think of who have hugged me, are women, and it makes me uncomfortable because of my mom but i think with men its a bit different. my out of state uncle hugs me when he visits, and i usually am ok with it. i dont love it, but i dont hate it.

i have hugged a few (male) celebrities i met, but that was on my terms... if it was not a celeb, where i know that the of stuff is ok, as i see someone else do it first.... i would never initiate a hug

anyway... now i kinda feel bad because i do trust my T and i feel safe with him and if he was willing to work on it with me or whatever, i would be ok with it, id rather it be with someone i feel safe with than him send me home to hug a stranger or something. i feel stupid bringing it up now though, because what if i misread his comment? i dont wanna seem like a creepy weirdo...

Only let a few people hug me period when others do I feel very uncomfortable. Especially older men really gives me the creeps I don't even want them to touch me.

I actually love hugs. Hugs, to me, are a non-verbal way to say, 'I really care about you.'

I much prefer hugs to the three kisses on the cheek that are normal in my country. THAT I really can't stand!
Although I am fine with friends hugging me, I don't like any contact forced on me by family members.

I am also never the one that initiates a hug, I will always wait for the other person to hug me first. Wish I wasn't so scared or rejection

My dad has pointed out to me that I'm not a good hugger. I don't know if I feel uncomfortable, but I don't necessarily like them either. I'm not comfortable with long hugs whereyou have to like squeeze hard. He says I never hug very hard. I just don't necessarily like being touched.