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Old Jul 02, 2017, 11:19 AM
brianwalker41 brianwalker41 is offline
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Hi everyone i hope you're doing well ,
can someone please help me , i only need a good comparison or a different way of thinking

i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me.Happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life.Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house.I explained to my parents this but they didnt accept to move from this house, and its been months since i did nothing new in my life , only waiting untill i move from here and then i start living the real life

=> i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad

if it happened in our old house i would totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle ,not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue,all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING .This may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot.

i just need a different way to see this .Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession? any good comparison ?
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 03:00 PM
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Hi and welcome to PC!

I live in a house that my abusive ex-fiance picked out. A lot of bad things happened here. I still live here because I can't afford all the maintenance needed to bring this place back to a selling point.

I live here with my husband, daughter and her boyfriend. We're letting the kids use the upper floor as their space while they're going to college and working, so they can save money to move out. Once they are gone, we're going to get the place renovated and sell it. I'm going to sell it at a loss anyhow because I bought before the housing market crash in 2006.

For the time being we've added touches to make the place more "ours". We've repainted, and turned the sunroom area into a home office. I'm thinking of repainting the master bedroom. We have our pictures and wedding stuff in the living room.

What helped the most, though, was going to therapy and deal with the feelings about my ex-fiance and the abuse that occurred. With that I was able to start letting go hating the house and at least tolerate it. I still get torqued off about it--right now the roof is leaking and we found out it wasn't installed correctly--but it's not the house's fault.
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 03:10 PM
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Hello brianwalker: I don't know as there is much of anything in particular I can offer with regard to your concerns. My thinking, I guess, would be that panic attacks don't just appear suddenly out of nowhere for no reason. (Perhaps I'm wrong?)

You wrote that you had been happy your whole life until you had a panic attack 3 years ago. Then you became anxious & depressed. My personal non-professional perspective would be that, although you believe you were happy prior to having that panic attack 3 years ago, something was going on. Perhaps it was beneath the surface & you didn't recognize it. But I just find it difficult to imagine that a person who has been thoroughly happy his or her whole life suddenly out of nowhere has a panic attack & descends into anxiety & depression.

Anyway... assuming for a moment that this may be the case, I think what is perhaps going to be necessary is for you to make arrangements to spend some time with a counselor or mental health therapist talking all of this through. Doing so may help you to figure out what this is all about & what you can do about it. My personal opinion (again) would be that the move to the new house is incidental to this whole experience. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will have other perspectives to share.

Under any circumstances... I see this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 03:25 PM
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I agree with Fharraige and Skeezyks...excellent advice. I wish you the best.
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Old Jul 03, 2017, 10:43 AM
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thanks all of you people for your replies !
it's just an obssesion , it bothers me in the future that i started something at this place , this place feels like tainted when i experienced bad feelings at the first two months

i hope i'll get more replies to view this differently and accept it by the end
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Old Jul 04, 2017, 12:47 PM
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