[eclairparty98]

Hello all

In the future, I'd like to meet someone -- a like-minded understanding, caring, kind companion I can trust who can also trust me, too. I've realized there is no possible way of me meeting this person through friends as I haven't got any nor through college as I don't go. Work was one of the possibilities BUT I don't like the idea of ''defecating where you eat''. SO, I've decided the only way for me to meet anyone is through dating apps. I've done this before, it was a mild success, met some great people, but my paranoia got the better of me.

Which brings me to now.

Do you trust dating apps?? Because I don't 100% do. Yet I think it'll be a good idea to start using them again to meet new people. At the moment, I'm agoraphobic. It's not horrendous to the point I physically can't leave the front door but it isn't easy being out in public -- SO, it'll be a few weeks before I start using any apps.

One of the many reasons I feel anxious is getting randomly attacked, jumped, run over in public. From what I hear, it's seemingly more common to get murdered by someone you meet from a dating website/app - HENCE my lack of trust.

[CepheidVariable]

I have no experience with this (a very sad story), but since no else has chipped in yet....

The recommendations I've seen are to talk to the person for a little bit online to see if it seems serious. Then always meet and do activities in well populated public places until you get to know them better. You can also arrange to participate in group activities if you have a common hobby or see something you'd both like to try.

People shouldn't have a problem with this. It's for their safety and peace of mind too.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by CepheidVariable

I have no experience with this (a very sad story), but since no else has chipped in yet....

The recommendations I've seen are to talk to the person for a little bit online to see if it seems serious. Then always meet and do activities in well populated public places until you get to know them better. You can also arrange to participate in group activities if you have a common hobby or see something you'd both like to try.

People shouldn't have a problem with this. It's for their safety and peace of mind too.

Haha, thank you for chipping in, I appreciate it

Yeah, getting to know someone first would be the most sensible thing to do! Although there are a lot of people who are just looking for flings and won't mind stringing a person along. I'm sorry to hear you have a sad story as to why you haven't experience online dating. If you need an extra person to offload to, I'm available

I hope all is well with you

[scarlett35]

Definitely get to know someone first yes, and meet them in a public place if you do eventually decide to meet up. Once you get on there it's kind of easy to read who wants something serious

I also think you need to keep at it. I had been on and off them with minimal success but then met my SO on one last november. We've now been together about 8 months

Just be careful! Make sure you let people know where you are too when you go on dates!

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by scarlett35

Definitely get to know someone first yes, and meet them in a public place if you do eventually decide to meet up. Once you get on there it's kind of easy to read who wants something serious

I also think you need to keep at it. I had been on and off them with minimal success but then met my SO on one last november. We've now been together about 8 months

Just be careful! Make sure you let people know where you are too when you go on dates!

Oh gosh, that's so lovely! It's reinforcing my hope in dating-app induced romance hearing success stories as many people these days say they're only used for flings and if you're looking for love, look elsewhere. It's wonderful to hear you met your SO through these apps -- my T was telling me she knows people who meet their spouses through the apps as there really isn't anywhere to meet new people anymore.

Good idea - I'll give myself a curfew, too just to add that extra precaution!! Thank you for sharing your success

[scarlett35]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

Oh gosh, that's so lovely! It's reinforcing my hope in dating-app induced romance hearing success stories as many people these days say they're only used for flings and if you're looking for love, look elsewhere. It's wonderful to hear you met your SO through these apps -- my T was telling me she knows people who meet their spouses through the apps as there really isn't anywhere to meet new people anymore.

Good idea - I'll give myself a curfew, too just to add that extra precaution!! Thank you for sharing your success

No problem at all! They definitely work you just have to meet a few frogs to find a prince so to speak!

I would have struggled to meet someone as I work from home at the moment and my hobbies are mostly lady kind of hobbies. Not many men there haha!

[Sunflower123]

I have no experience with dating apps but have heard good and bad stories. The precautions listed in this thread sound adequate. If you do go with dating apps, I hope you meet someone great right off. Sending big hugs.